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Thu, Feb 02 2012
Ideas of what to throw at weddings


Where did the tradition of throwing rice come from and why do we do it?

Throwing rice was actually one of the fertility rituals at weddings from ancient times. The rice seeds where symbols of "New Life" because they could germinate. This custom is believed to come from ancient Rome where both rice and later grain, dates, nuts and coins apparently were thrown at the newly weds to pave the way for fertility, happiness and good force. Nowadays rice (you can get bird safe rice) is no longer thrown as a symbol of fertility but simply to wish the couple a prosperous future and is a real festive element at the wedding ceremony. Bird safe rice is not the only option though, take a look at the suggestions below and get inspired to personalize your wedding ceremony. 

Suggestion to what to throw at the wedding ceremony:

Designer rice/bird safe rice – You can still go with the old tradition and use rice for your wedding ceremony. Just use the bird safe stuff that is biodegradable. Ask your church if it’s okay first though. Bird safe rice can be heart shaped and bought at craft stores.

Bird seed – Low cost, quite commonly used and is definitely on the top five for a lot of brides. There is no clean up here as the birds will do it for you but be aware that it may be a bit messy on the hands. Remember that it is going to be thrown at you avoid the seed mix with very large seeds in. 

Grass seed – Fantastic if you are on a lawn as there is no mess to clean up. Wedding venues or churches are not likely to approve this one. 

Rose petals – Low cost if as you can get the leftover from flower markets. I have heard of brides who have bought rose petals for 500 guests for around $15. Amazing! You can use flower petals of whatever flowers are in your wedding bouquet.

Cherry blossoms – Gorgeous for weddings. The guests can throw the whole flowers or just the petals. A nice twist on this idea is to get small branches with the cherry blossoms on and use them as decoration at the wedding ceremony. After the eremony the guests then get one (little) branch each which they simply shake over the newly weds so the small pink petals drizzles off.

Dried lavender – Lovely idea. The lavender is more or less the same size as the rice, wont cause any harm to environment and as they are thrown and everybody steps on them they will smell beautifully!

Heather - also a gorgeous flower to use and won’t be too expensive. Heather exists in variations of purple, pink and also white. Beautiful! If you like the idea of using heather flowers then you should see my suggestion on how to make your own flower wreath using heather here. 

Bubbles – Are very popular because many churches won’t allow most of the other things that are thrown at weddings. If you would like bubbles for your wedding ceremony I suggest you buy a sample and test it first. Some bubbles can leave ugly stains on clothes as they land and dry out. Also many photographers strongly advise against bubbles due to their expensive camera gear. The bubbles can also leave marks on the camera lens which will then be visible on your wedding photos. 

Large size party poppers – They will pop confetti and streamers into the air. Decorate them with personalized stickers or tags and arrange in baskets or bowls for guests to take one each.

DIY wedding wands – Make wedding wands out of pieces of dowel with pieces of ribbon attached to the top! Not only does it look beautiful but wedding wands are also practical as there is nothing to clean up afterwards. They look amazing on photos too and make a lovely little keepsafe for wedding guests! 

Wild flower seed – Are fantastic if you have your wedding on your own (or your family’s) property and you don’t mind gorgeous little flowers potentially appearing seasons later. I think it would be amazing to see all the little flowers the following summer or spring. It would be a romantic reminder of the wedding day year after year! Churches or other wedding ceremony venues are unlikely to allow this though. 
If you like this idea and are allowed to use flower seeds then consider to use flower seeds for your wedding favors as well.

Rice paper – Is thin, makes great confetti and is eco friendly.

“Sprinkles” - I have heard of “sprinkles” being used as well. It great in size, price and colors but if it’s a rainy day I would be a little careful as the colors from the “sprinkles” potentially can stain clothes. One thing is for sure – its great for the children who will probably at more than they throw. If you use “sprinkles” for your wedding ceremony then consider to also use “sprinkles” on your cake or cupcakes later to make a theme. 

Autumn leaves – Rustic and wonderful for a fall wedding. Spend a little time collecting leaves and drying them before the wedding. Arrange them in bushel baskets with a little sign telling guests to take a handful each. It’s original & creative.

Pumpkin seeds – Also wonderful for an Autumn wedding theme. Arrange in individual bags, paper cones or on bowls for guests to take a handful each.

$1 bills – It’s an African tradition

Small coins – It’s apparently an Eastern European tradition.

Eco confetti – available in different colors and is eco friendly.

Streamers – get all your guests streamers. They are super festive, very easy to clean up and they come in all colors.

Jordan almonds – I have heard of jordan almonds thrown at an Italian wedding.

Miniature beach balls – Super for a beach wedding theme. You can get mini beach balls in all colors on the internet. It looks amazing and the guests will have a laugh throwing them around. I have heard it’s a lot of fun and great entertainment too!

Alternatives to throwing

Release live butterflies – it’s quite expensive though but it looks amazing if the guests release them as you walk past. 

Release live doves – it’s also quite expensive but looks gorgeous on the wedding photos later. 

Sparklers – Breathtaking for an evening wedding. It looks amazing and is quite inexpensive as well. Tie two sparklers together with a piece of ribbon and place in a basket or similar. Make sure your guests have a possibility to light them – perhaps with small personalized match boxes. If there are kids consider giving them little sparkle lights.
Japanese floating lanterns - Get your guests a floating Japanese lantern each. I love this idea if you are marrying around a pool or pond or similar in the evening but I am not a fan of adding more stuff to the oceans. This is also why I am not adding “Balloon Releases” to this list. I don’t like the thought of them ending up in nature somewhere when they finally pop & drop.

Fireworks – Superb for an evening wedding but also a bit noisy.

Kazoos – Give your guests one each to blow after the ceremony – Noisy but very festive!

Bells - Give your guests a bell each and ring in your new life.

No matter what you choose for your wedding ceremony it will surely be amazing and you can easily add your own personal DIY touch to it all. Make small bags of fabric or paper or arrange in large baskets or glass fish balls and add tags, ribbon or signs. 
I hope you feel inspired. 

Small tip: If you have decided on something which could potentially make your guests hands a bit dirty (i.e. birdseed, flowers petals etc.) it would be a really lovely gesture to arrange individually wrapped small wet tissues for your guests so they can wipe their hands afterwards. In particular if you go directly to the reception after the wedding ceremony.

Sat, Jan 14 2012
Unique And Interesting Wedding Traditions


Adding your own personal flair to your wedding ceremony or reception will create a memorable and fun event for all guests. Try adding one or more of these worldly traditions to add spice or to bring your guests and yourselves back to your roots.


Traditions, the transmittal of an element of culture from one generation to another, are plentiful during weddings and receptions and symbolize the happiness, luck and joy needed for the newlyweds. Many times the theme or color scheme of the celebration is dictated by traditions. When planning a wedding, try to add a few worldly traditions that will spice up the affair, create a memorable experience for all and, perhaps, show a bit of the family's roots to those in attendance.


Most couples have heard of, or experienced, the Victorian traditions such as, a bride wearing something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a sixpence (or dime) in her shoe.


The "old" should come from a happily married woman and insures a lucky transfer of happiness. The new is usually the weddinggown, or appearal, signifying a new beginning. The borrowed should be an object of gold to guarantee wealth and fortune. The blue is symbolic of the heavens and true love. And the sixpence (dime) is to be worn in the heel of the left shoe to provide future wealth and prosperity.


Another Victorian tradition involves the transfer of the bride from father to groom. Though modern day has edged out the true meaning of transferring responsibility, many parent figures still give the bride away; a gesture of saying goodbye to the daughter and welcoming a wife/husband and extended family.


Men's shoes were once thrown after or attached to a departing couple's carriage as an additional symbol of one family transferring the responsibility to another. And in some current cultures, the delivery of a men's pair of shoes to a requesting groom, signifies that the family approves of the marriage.


Today's weddings can be elegant or casual and can incorporate just about anything a couple desires. With a little research and planning, a hodge-podge of cultures that represent the entire family can be incorporated into a ceremony. Try adding one or more of these:

Add an Early American tradition by incorporating gloves as an accessory to the groom or bride's apparel; a symbol of modesty and romance. Without the letter "g," gloves become a pair of loves that still compliment any formal wedding.


In Fiji, it is customary for a groom to present a valuable gift to his bride's father. Traditionally, this present is a whale's tooth symbolizing status and wealth.


At Hawaiian weddings, flower garlands known as leis are traditionally placed around the necks of the bride and groom and are exchanged during the ceremony. Leis symbolize love and respect - exchanging them is equal to taking a vow.


A Filipino tradition involves pinning the bride's veil to the groom's shoulder to symbolize the couple being clothed as one. Or, a white cord in draped around the couple's necks to represents the eternal bond. In addition, a unity candle is lit during the marriage ceremony and blessed by the priest for a life of faithfulness and prosperity.


The Filipino traditions continue to the reception as guests pin money to the newlyweds to help pay for the honeymoon. Often times, there is a birdcage decorated as a wedding bell with white doves inside. The newlyweds release the birds, symbolizing their new life starting together in peace.


In Estonia, the wedding reception includes a custom to determine the next groom. The groom, wearing a top hat, is surrounded and blindfolded by the single men in attendance. They spin him around and then the groom shakily and dizzily puts his top hat on the bachelor next to marry.


Russian traditions include a relative or close friend making a wedding toast to the bride and groom. Everyone throws his or her champagne glasses on the floor; it is considered good luck if the glasses break when they hit the ground.


A Hungarian tradition of each male dancing with the bride, giving her a coin and getting a kiss in return, can be adapted for today's receptions. If a number of male children or teens are present, they can dance with the bride, give her a chocolate coin and come away with a kiss on the cheek.


Some simple ways of adding culture can be accomplished by carrying a lump of sugar to ensure a sweet life, entwining ivy as a symbol of endless love in the bouquet, or adding lavender for a prosperous and children-filled life.


Whatever new or old traditions are carried to the wedding or reception, be certain to explain the meanings. Small cards of explanation or announcements will create a nice, memorable surprise for those in attendance.

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Entwining Old Wedding Customs & Traditions For a Romantic Wedding


Wedding traditions have long-held great significance to the bride and the groom. Many recognize the need for tradition, value and strong beliefs. Many couples include the basic customs into their ceremonies, while others practice the full extent. Depending on religion and beliefs, many traditions are the normal part of the ceremony and the celebration. The celebration is just as important in its significance. Many have specific origins and historical value, while some traditions are virtually practiced and shared without truly knowing where they originated from............take your time and read on.......




Engagement Party


IDEA #1: Scottish Wedding Announcements in the medieval Church announced intended marriages through a process called the banns of marriage. Select or hire a well-suited man to announce the banns of marriage during the party. Include in the banns the wedding date and other vital information. For a humorous addition, include the required duties of the wife and husband.



IDEA #2: Flouncing was a special party held for an engaged couple to meet with friends of both families. This "flouncing" established a formal contract. If either changed his mind about the marriage, the other could lay claim to half of his, or her, property. Following a flouncing, the couple could no longer be seen with, or be found talking to, other suitors. In China, the betrothal was looked upon as a family obligation. If an engaged man died before the wedding, his intended bride was treated as his widow. Flounce the engaged couple by preparing a Contract that includes humorous and contractual duties of the couple; include property and other items.



IDEA #3: To make the engagement official, the couple can exchange betrothal rings in the presence of the family and guests. In Germany, to mark their betrothal, a couple give each other gold bands, worn on their left hands. Throughout their engagement, the couple are referred to as bride and bridegroom.



IDEA #4: The Danish Gate of Honor is a Gate of Honor erected in front of the bride's parents' house. It consists of a long garland of branches put up as an inverted-U to form an archway. The branches are made from pine, or oak. The Gate can be attached around the doorway or left freestanding somewhere across the path leading to the house. This Gate of Honor is also erected when a married couple celebrates their silver anniversary. Add a special touch at the engagement party using this custom.


IDEA #5: As a sign of a new family being created, part of the celebration can include planting a favorite tree, rose bush or other cherished bush or vine. In Norway, two small fir trees are set on either side of the door to the couple's house until they are blessed with a child.


IDEA #6: During Medieval times in Brittany the man proposed by leaving a hawthorn branch at the door of his beloved on the first of May. By leaving the branch at the door she accepted his proposal. She made known her refusal by replacing the hawthorn branch with a cauliflower. For a touch of humor, try this scenario in the presence of the guests, with the father of the bride giving her a choice between a decorated branch or cauliflower.



 IDEA #7: In Hungary, the couple exchange betrothal rings. The groom also gives the bride a silk bag of coins. This custom gives notice of intent to the family. The bride gives the groom either three or seven handkerchiefs (believed to be a lucky number). Use the gold dollar coins for this exchange. The bride can use monogrammed handkerchiefs.




Bridal Shower


IDEA #8: In old China, the color of love and joy is red, which is the favorite color choice for the bride’s dress, candles, gift boxes, and the money envelopes that are presented to the bride and guests. Use “red” as the theme, complete with parasols! 



IDEA #9: A few bournemouth hotels have witnessed the success of giving each guest a name tag indicating their relation to the bride, such as mother, future mother-in-law, maid of honor, bridesmaid, best friend, cousin, sister-in-law to-be, hostess, etc.


IDEA #10: In Croatia, married female relatives remove the bride’s veil and replace it with a kerchief and apron, symbols of her new married status. She is then serenaded by all the married women. Use as a game during the shower by dividing up into teams and dressing up one team member in “married woman attire” (apron, kerchief, oven mitt), providing each team with a roll of toilet paper. The bride chooses the best outfit. Include color swatches in shower invitations so guests know the colors the bride has chosen for her bathroom, kitchen, bedroom, etc.


IDEA #11: In Ireland, a lucky horseshoe is given to the bride and groom to keep in their home. Make horseshoe mementoes for the guests by decorating them and adding a poem and this custom to it




IDEA #12: In Finland, the bride-to-be was considered "snobbish" if she did not go door-to-door to receive her gifts in a pillowcase---the custom of Collecting. Accompanying her, an elderly married man, carrying an umbrella (for shelter), came along and was given a drink at each door. Today, an umbrella is used as a decoration symbolizing "protection". Give shower guests miniature umbrellas as party favors. Using a small, lacy, paper doily and pipe cleaners, fold the lace doily in half. Bring both sides together with a tip forming at the top. Cut pipe cleaners in half. Place the pipe cleaner inside the paper doily and secure with tape. Form the bottom of the pipe cleaner in the shape of a curved handle. Using clear address labels, type the bride and groom’s name, wedding date, shower date or other information. Place one label on each umbrella.


IDEA #13: The wedding veil was used to protect the bride from evil spirits. As a symbol of this tradition, create a simple veil made of tulle and have all the bows from the gifts pinned on the veil. The bows are to be used for the couple’s first Christmas together.



Bridal Luncheon or Tea


IDEA #14: Have a cake baked with the symbolic charms Another old English custom was to place a ring in the wedding cake. The guest who found the ring in their the piece of cake would be ensured happiness for the next year.


IDEA #15: Provide each guest with candy-coated almonds wrapped in tulle as a favor (Greek). Giving almonds at a wedding celebration are to symbolize the bitter and sweet of married life. The five almonds stand for Love, Happiness, Loyalty, Prosperity and virility.




IDEA #16: In Armenia, two while doves may be released to signify love and happiness. Use a decorated wicker birdcage with two silk white doves as a decorator piece for the theme of the Luncheon or Tea.

Wales: Here, and throughout the British Isles, the bride gives her attendants cuttings of myrtle (symbolizing love) for her bouquet. According to custom, if the plant roots and blossoms, they will marry soon


IDEA #17: Rosemary wreaths, handmade by the mother or grandmother of the bride is a century old tradition for brides in the countryside of Czechoslovakia. A variation of this today is seen as wreaths of baby’s breath and miniature roses, worn as often by the attendants as the bride herself.


IDEA #18: The symbolic color of happiness and prosperity for the Chinese is red. Include red foiled hearts or confetti (or a red rose petal) in the wedding invitation which will sprinkle out when your guests open the envelope.


 IDEA #19: The custom in Finland was to go “collecting” and filling pillowcases with gifts. In using this custom, attend a bridal fair, having the bridesmaids or maid of honor can have the duty of collecting brochures, calling cards and information, filling up bags for the bride while she devotes her attention to looking at displays and asking questions



Wedding Preparations


IDEA #20: In France, during the rein of Louis XVI, the bride gave her bridesmaids her fans, decorated with mythological paintings, as wedding presents. Give each bridesmaid a Victorian fan, decorated with symbolic paintings. Paddle Fan Favors


IDEA #21: The traditional wedding toasts can be offered in many ways. On your reply card, ask your guests to list a favorite song for the band/DJ to play in dedication to the new couple, and expressing best wishes or marriage advice.


IDEA #22: Imaginary trolls in Sweden, once thought to bring misfortune to the young couple, were kept away by the bride, as well as her bridesmaids, carrying bouquets of pungent herbs and stinking weeds. Today, those stinking herbs and weeds have been replaced by the lovely bouquets carried on the arms of brides throughout the world. Lightly spray each invitation envelope with perfume. As an option, place all envelopes in a plastic bag, filled with potpourri sachet packets which will enhance the fragrance of the invitation and envelope for the guests (and the postal workers).


IDEA #23: A lovely tradition has long been practiced in Belgium to make and embroider a handkerchief for the bride to carry during her wedding. The brides name would also be embroidered on it. Following the wedding, she would them frame the handkerchief and hang it on the wall until the next wedding in the family, at which time it was to be taken down and the new bride’s name embroidered on it as well. This was handed down from generation to generation. Add a special touch by embroidery the names and wedding dates of your ancestry. Bridal Handkerchief: This is a lucky sign for farmers. A bride’s wedding tears bring rain for their crops.


IDEA #24: Breaking of the bread symbolizing the union of two families. Instead of slicing into your beautiful wedding cake which stands so majestic on the table—have two! Construct a cake using Styrofoam, fully decorated with icing and frosting. Have the “real cake” baked in sheet cake style using your favorite filling, flavor and frosting. For creativity, construct the Styrofoam into a castle or other forms.



Wedding Ceremony


IDEA #25: The groom presents the bride with a small, decorated chest which contains money or symbolic representation of money, symbolizing his faithfulness to her and commitment to support her. Mexican The arras, a small chest of gold coins symbolizing wealth and strength, is blessed; groom may present 13 gold coins to the bride as a symbol of his commitment to support her


 IDEA #26: “Love Tokens”. What a charming custom the Welsh and Pennsylvania Dutch couples had of giving one another hand crafted gifts, useful for their future home. Such things as cake molds, butter prints, carved spoon which were covered with symbols and announcements of their love for one another.


IDEA #27: Hold decorated candles as the Bride and Groom exchange vows as the Germans do. This beautiful old tradition could be included in a wedding of today, with the couple placing candles they have carried to the alter beside their unity candle. These candles could then be used to light the unity candle at the end of the ceremony. Also, these candles could light a special memorial candle in the event that a loved one has passed on and remembrance is desired during the ceremony.


 IDEA #28: Swedish wives wear three wedding rings: for betrothal, for marriage, and for motherhood. The minister could include a scripture about fertility when a third ring is given to the bride during the ceremony.


IDEA #29: In Scandinavian customs, fiddlers and horns accompany the wedding procession to the church. Have trumpeters (or other musicians) lead the procession down the aisle.


IDEA #30: Have the flower girl go down the aisle handing out tiny rose buds or flowers to guests on at the ends of the pews. The familiar English tradition of a flower girl throwing rose petals as she passes down the aisle before the bride is a reminder of days gone by when the bride walked to the church with her maids in waiting. Leading the procession was always a young girl throwing flower petals along the lane, so the bride’s path through life would be happy and laden with flowers. 


IDEA #31: Leading the procession: a small girl strewing blossoms along the road. With a bit of a twist, decorate a Red Flyer wagon for your small attendants to ride in down the aisle if they are uncomfortable about walking down the aisle. A junior bridesmaid (about age 10) could pull the wagon down to the alter and settle the children.


IDEA #32: Wonderful idea for an interesting unity candle—buy a three wick candle, have the parents of the groom light one wick while the parents of the bride are lighting another wick, then have the bride and groom light the remaining wick to unit the families represented. Children blended with the new family unit can also light a candle.


IDEA #33: The lasso, a figure-eight rope, symbolically ties the couple together and is binding (Mexican). Decorate a long garland or rope which is placed around the couple during the vows or during other parts of the ceremony.


IDEA #34: English weddings are held at noon with a sit-down luncheon afterwards. Mid-morning ceremonies provide a special event with a wedding breakfast afterwards. To continue the day’s events, a dance is sponsored in the evening


IDEA #35: Have everything white as the French do! Dresses, flowers, decorations, mother’s dresses, bridesmaids dresses, etc.



IDEA #36: Have Bagpipes playing outside the church after the bride and groom depart and as guests leave the church! Scottish grooms wear the kilt of his “Clan”, and bagpipe music is played at the entrance and recessional of the bridal party.


IDEA #37: One of the most simple, yet elegant of ceremonies, is the Moravian Wedding Ritual. The bridal couple together lights one large candle. The flame is passed along to each guest, who each has been given a hand-made candle. Each guest lights the candle of the one beside until the whole church is aglow with the warmth of love of family and friends. This is a wonderful way to include your family and friends. Include this custom during the lighting of the unity candle.







Wedding Reception & Dance 



#IDEA #38: In Switzerland, a pine tree, which symbolizes luck and fertility, is planted at the couple’s new home. Use small pine trees decorated as you wish and instruct guests to plant their tree as a special remembrance. These small evergreen trees are easy to decorate with ribbon, a poem and other items, and is good for the environment. This ideas can also be used when decorating guest tables at the reception. 


IDEA #39: Today’s love tokens could include a song or poem written by the groom to his bride, or a hand embroidered handkerchief for the groom. Whatever your special craft, whether it be tole painting, crocheting, wood carving, or any number of other ideas, just remember, the idea behind the gift is to give something of yourself, created with loving thoughts to the one you love.


 IDEA #40: Guests at many Mexican weddings gather around the couple in a heart-shaped ring at the reception, perhaps before the first dance. The wedding party may also take this responsibility.


IDEA #41: This tradition of the bride and groom cutting the first slice of cake is of Victorian origin. It was considered bad luck if the bride did not cut the first piece for her groom.


IDEA #42: English couples in the countryside traditionally walked to church with their wedding party. During the reception have the wedding party (and others) follow the couple around the reception hall with music in the background as a way of greeting the guests.


IDEA #43: In Korea, ducks are included in the wedding procession because ducks mate for life. It the reception is being held near a pool area, consider have swans swimming around.


IDEA #44: Following the ceremony in Switzerland, a junior bridesmaid would lead the procession to the reception by passing out colored handkerchiefs to the guests along the way. Each guest would then in turn give a coin to the bridesmaid for the starting up of the new home. Today, a junior bridesmaid could pass out colored pieces of cloth of multi-colors and patterns. The guests could search for the other matching piece(s) and dance with their partners.




IDEA #45: In Finland, brides once wore crowns of gold. Following the wedding and during the reception, the tradition known as the “Dance of the Crowns” took place. The bride would be blindfolded, while her unmarried maids would dance around her in a circle. She would remove her crown and place it on a maiden, and whoever she crowned was said to be the next to marry. This custom could be easily be reborn by the bride who wears a wreath rather than a veil, and she too could dance the “Dance of Crowns”. A special wreath or floral-decorated crown could be used for this special, added touch!


IDEA #46: Quaker tradition does not include clergy, so the wedding certificate is not only signed by the bride, groom , maid of honor and best man, but, all the guests who promise to help the newlyweds grow as a couple, and all sign as witnesses. Purchase a Victorian Marriage Certificate and have matted in a color tone which allows for guests to sign around the border. Designate a person to gather signatures with the instructions of having guest offer specific wishes, a compliment such as “you looked beautiful” or your best piece of marital advice. This treasure will last a lifetime, and easily handed down to the next generation. The wedding certificate is hung in a prominent place in the new household as a beautiful memento to treasure.


 IDEA #47: Bells....If you are to be married in church and it is permitted by the denomination, the chime of wedding bells as the bridal party leaves is an old tradition in many parts of the British Isles. It was thought that the sound of bells had the power to ward off evil spirits, so it’s worth checking into! Alternatively, if your ceremony venue makes it impossible to have the peal of bells accompany your recessional, you might consider giving each guest a tiny bell which they can ring as the bridal party exits. This might also be a better choice than throwing confetti, birdseed or flower petals, which, in many places, isn’t allowed anymore. In addition to warding off evil spirits, there’s another old Irish superstition that the sound of a bell will eliminate any discord between a couple. As a result, a bell has become a traditional Irish wedding gift.


IDEA #48: In Italy, wedding guests have for centuries tossed confetti (sugared almonds) at the newlyweds to symbolize the sweet (sugar ) and bitter. Decorate each place at the reception with pretty little tulle bags called bomboniere, which are personalized with the couple’s names and wedding date



IDEA #49: "Wishing Well" Tradition

Growing in popularity with the Brides is the Wishing Well theme. Be careful in that this new theme might not be popular with your guests--as gifts are given in the spirit of the heart. In lieu of gifts (for the couple who have everything already), the bride and groom set up a wishing well to receive monetary gifts placed in envelopes. The money can be used to purchase larger home items or be used for the honeymoon. Check with the rental companies, crafts stores and hobby shops to rent a Wishing Well. These can be decorated with silk flowers and other items. Creative Wishing Wells can also be made/built by creative people! Be sure to add a lock for safety-sake. Add an embossed Victorian Folding fan on your Wishing Well! Favors



IDEA #50: "Wishing Well Tradition"

poem by Valerie Tillery


We are getting married and have our dowries combined.

Dishes, lace and linens in the cupboard,

the marriage certificate has been signed.


Be a part of our “Wishing Well” wishes for the gifts that we desire.

If not for you, it would be hard for us to acquire.


Our hopes are for the bigger things,

We plea for your help to see what that will bring.


Giving a monetary gift on our special day,

Will fill our hearts in a unique way.


So, drop a pretty card in our “Wishing Well”---

Any amount will do.

 And as you drop the envelope, make a wish upon your heart to come true.

Fancy this “Wishing Well” tradition and make our dreams happen too!




How TO Educate your Guests about the Customs you use.....

Have master of ceremonies or DJ announce or refer to them during the process

Type on Wedding and/or Reception Program

Prepare a special handout for the tables, listing the customs you have chosen to use

Have the pastor refer to the custom during the ceremony

During the Rehearsal Dinner type custom(s) on the back of place cards

At the Shower, have the hostess refer to the customs being used

Include customs on a separate insert when mailing Wedding Invitation

 Include on your seating chart at the Reception

Type on clear labels for attaching on items



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