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Unity Candle Wording/ sand Ceremony Wording Unity Candle Wording/ sand Ceremony Wording

Wed, Aug 28 2013
Sand Ceremony Wording

Sample 1

Non Religious:

Sand Ceremony with Vows of the Heart(Bride’s name) and (Groom’s name) You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. We have witnessed your giving and receiving of rings and the exchange of vows and a kiss. Now we will observe you create a lasting visual representation of these promises.

The (insert color) sand represents (Bride’s name) and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be. The (insert color) sand represents (Groom’s name) and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be.

Your relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand into one container. You will note that the individual colors do not cease to exist, but that there are times when the two are blended. It is this blending that is marriage.
Vows of the Heart blessings and weddings

Sample 2

With God:

Sand Ceremony for your wedding by Vows of the Heart(Bride’s name) and (Groom’s name) You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. We have witnessed your giving and receiving of rings and the exchange of vows and a kiss. Now we will observe you create a lasting visual representation of these promises.

The (insert color) sand represents (Bride’s name) and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be. The (insert color) sand represents (Groom’s name) and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be. The third (insert color-usually white or gold) container represents God.

(Minister pours the third container) Your spiritual beliefs are the foundation for your marriage. Bride, pour some of your sand which will represent you as an individual. Groom, pour some of your sand which will represent you as an individual.

(Minister pours more of the third container) Let God forever support you in your relationship. (Bride’s name) and (Groom’s name), now pour your remaining sand into the container together to represent the joining of your two individual lives into this union of marriage.
Vows of the Heart blessings and weddings

Sample 3

Colors representing aspects of the relationship

In this Unity Sand ceremony, you will create a lasting visual representation of the promises and intentions for you marriage. As I describe the various colors and their meanings, pour them into the container representing your marriage.

Red represents a passion for life, physical energy and health.
Orange shows sweetness, trust, and creativity.
With yellow you bring in respect, personal power and spontaneity.
Compassion, unconditional love, and balance are represented by green.
Blue is the color of communication, contentedness, harmony and self expression.
With Indigo you bring in intuition, wisdom, emotional intelligence and charisma.
Violet represents peace, spirituality and selflessness.
White is the color of purity and a connection with a Higher Power, God, Divine and Spirit.
Vows of the Heart blessings and weddings

Sample 4

Blended Family Sand Ceremony

___________________and ____________________have chosen to memorialize their commitment to each other and to their family with a Sand Ceremony.

Each family member has a container of sand to represent______________

(the sand can represent either their personal qualities that they do bring to the family or to represent the qualities you want to bring into the family relationship-whichever you prefer)

Describe each person’s color and what it means____________

examples: ___________has sand the color of_____________ which depicts_________

(for example Susan has sand the color of red which represents passion for life, Mary has sand the color of yellow representing her sunny smile and disposition. Peter’s sand is purple to represent his spirituality and connection to the Divine. Jean has sand the color of green which represents her connection to earth, growth and new beginnings. The Blue sand belongs to Mark which represents his ability to speak and live his truth.)

Each family member will pour a little of their sand into the container.

You will notice that in spots the sand remains distinct because each person is an individual. The colors compliment and support each other, just the members of a family compliment and support each other.

Now they will pour in the sand simultaneously. You will note how the colors blend. This is to demonstrate the unity of family, the togetherness, the blending of personalities, strengths and needs.

 

 

Fri, Jan 13 2012
Unity Candles

 

 


The unity candle lighting ceremony is becoming more and more common in today's weddings. The ceremony symbolizes the pledge of unity between the bride and groom and the merging of two families.It usually occurs after the exchanging of rings and before the couple is pronounced husband and wife (sometimes it is done after this however). Usually the mothers light their tapers before taking their seats, usually to a special piece of music. (This is often an instrumental song so as to not take any attention away from the mothers.) When the bride and groom light the center candle, a song is sung or played. They either take a few minutes up by the altar to exchange a few words or they can take a flower that was placed by the candle and present it to their mothers at this time.

Traditionally, there are three candles. The mothers each light one of the side candles. The bride and groom then each take one of the side candles and together they light the center candle. They may then blow out their individual side candles to symbolize the extinguishing of their two single lives. Or, as is more common today, they may keep those candles burning to symbolize that their individualness is not extinguished, even though they are united in marriage.
 



Here are some example wordings for this lovely, symbolic portion of the wedding ceremony. 
  1. "____ and ____ are going to light their wedding/unity candle, as a symbol of their marriage. The candles from which they light it represent each of them in the fullness of their personhood. They come into their marriage relationship as individuals and they do not lose their identity, rather they create through their commitment the relationship of marriage. Therefore, three candles remain lighted, one for each of them and one for their marriage as symbols of their commitment to each other and to a lasting and loving marriage."
  2. "The two outside candles have been lighted by their parents to represent their lives to this moment. The lights, representing the faith, wisdom, and love they have received from their parents, are distinct, each burning alone. They light the center candle to symbolize the union of their lives. As this one light burns undivided, so shall their love be one with God. From now on their thoughts shall be for each other rather than for their individual selves. Their joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. Holding hands, they encircle the alter and candle to symbolize the sacrificial nature of their life journey together. May the radiance of this one light and their jouney together be a testimony or their unity."
  3. "The two outside candles of the candelabra have been lighted to represent their lives to this moment. They are two distinct lights, each capable of going their separate ways. To bring bliss and happiness to their home there must be the merging of these two lights into one light. This is what God meant when He said: 'On this account, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall be one flesh.' From now on their thoughts shall be for each other rather than for their individual selves. Their plans shall be mutual, their joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. As they each take a candle and together light the center candle, they will extinguish their own candles, thus letting the center candle symbolize the union of our lives into one flesh. As this one light cannot be divided, neither shall their lives be divided. May the radiance of this one light be a witness of their unity in Christ."
  4. [This one is for a ceremony that uses a unity candle with the cross and double rings design on it.] "On this their Wedding Day, they make this loving commitment, to follow the greatest Commandment of all: 'Love one another, as I have loved you.' This they do in the hope that their union shall become a symbol of God's promise to merge two devoted lives into one. The two distinct flames represent their lives to this moment; individual and unique. To bring bliss and happiness to their home there must be the merging of these two into one. Together they light the center candle. This is what God meant when He said: 'On this account a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one.' From now on their thoughts shall be for each other rather than for their individual selves. The entwining rings -- symbolize their two lives joined in dependence and growing maturity. Their plans shall be mutual, their joys and sorrows shall be shared alike. The cross -- a constant reminder of their faith in the Lord who blesses us each day, for it is He who enriches their marriage in every possible way. Thus rhey extinguish the two, forever united in the radiant oneness of God's love. Let them renew their vows each day as the memory of this joyous occassion reminds us:
    The Way is Long -- Let Us Go Together
    The Way is Difficult -- Let Us Help Each Other
    The Way is Joyful -- Let Us Share It
    The Way Is Ours Alone -- Let Us Go In Love
    The Way Grows Before Us -- Let Us Begin"
  5. "Together they light one candle from two smaller candles as they acknowlege their union as husband and wife. By allowing the flame of the two smaller candles to remain lit, they also accept the individuality of each other as a means to fulfilling their oneness."
  6. [Between the Greeting and the Opening Prayer:] "On the day of their baptism, God began in (groom's name) and (bride's name) the process of becoming a Christian. They were given the privilege of being a light, an example to the people they would meet. Their process of becoming a Christian continues today. A new dimension is added as they celebrate the Sacrament of Matrimony. Today they come here from two different families. Out of these two families, a new family will be created in the Lord. At this time, I would invite the parents of (groom's name) and (bride's name) to come forward and light the individual candles which represent the two separate families who present son and daughter to the Lord in the Sacrament of Matrimony. The two individual flames, one representing each family, will demonstrate to us in a very beautiful way the symbol of two who become one." ... [Between the Blessing and Exchange of Rings and the Prayer of the Faithful:] "One in the Lord -- they symbolize this fact by lighting a third candle from their individual ones. From now on they will grow together as unique persons becoming another Christ, a light to the world."
  7. "From every human being there rises a light that reaches straight to heaven. And when two souls are destined for each other and find each other, their streams of light flow together and a single brighter light goes forth from their united being." (by Baal Shem Tov)
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