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Tue, May 06 2014
Unending love......

Unending Love

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times…
In life after life, in age after age, forever.
My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs,
That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms,
In life after life, in age after age, forever.

Whenever I hear old chronicles of love, its age-old pain,
Its ancient tale of being apart or together.
As I stare on and on into the past, in the end you emerge,
Clad in the light of a pole-star piercing the darkness of time:
You become an image of what is remembered forever.

You and I have floated here on the stream that brings from the fount.
At the heart of time, love of one for another.
We have played along side millions of lovers, shared in the same
Shy sweetness of meeting, the same distressful tears of farewell-
Old love but in shapes that renew and renew forever.

Today it is heaped at your feet, it has found its end in you
The love of all man’s days both past and forever:
Universal joy, universal sorrow, universal life.
The memories of all loves merging with this one love of ours –
And the songs of every poet past and forever.

Wed, Apr 17 2013
(1) Bilingual Wedding Ceremony

RON & MARINA

 

~ WEDDING CEREMONY ~

 

 

Celebrant:

Welcomes family & friends, the ceremony will now begin so please turn off your cell phones and beepers, thank you and a special thanks to David Ippolito for the soulful reminder.

 

 

INTRODUCTION

 

Celebrant:

The Great medieval philosopher, Thomas Aquinas, when asked to define true love, said that it was 'to Will the good of the other person.' If you truly love someone, you want their success, their happiness, everything that is best for them. Marina and Ron love each other. They Will each other's good. They Will each other's success, fulfillment and happiness.

 

When asked ‘What do you love about one another?’ Marina tells us in her own words: "I really love the way he cares for people. Ron is a big-hearted guy. I love how honest and reliable he is. It is unusual to find a person like Ron. He is a true friend and I love his smile." And Ron describes his love for his love: "I love Marina's enthusiasm, and the way she makes me feel very special. I love how she notices beauty around her--birds singing, colorful flowers, a sunny day."

 

I know that Marina and Ron are gratified that so many of you, their family and friends, have come here to Central Park in New York City to share their wedding celebration. And for those of you from out of town, this in an opportunity for Marina and ron to show you some of what they like about the city that they have made their home.

 

One of their favorite aspects of New York is the variety, all kinds of shops and museums, all kind of shows and food, and all kinds of people. So perhaps it is only fitting that Ron met his Colombian bride at a barbecue hosted by his Iranian former coworker Ashkan and Ash's Korean wife Amy, who knew Marina from the English classes they had taken together years before. (Amy & Inae's son Kaz is our honored ring bearer.)

 

Their first date was a David Letterman Show taping. Marina had never seen Late Night, but Belinda (her best friend and roommate from U Penn dental school) had, and encouraged her to go. (Belinda's daughter Anna, Marina’s Goddaughter, is our lovely flower girl.)

 

A few months went by: Ron and Marina went to watch Ash run the New York Marathon, jogged in Central Park, walked across the Brooklyn Bridge and talked for hours as they walked around Brooklyn, and socialized with friends from all over the world.

 

Their months together became years, and now (we don't have time to go through all the other dates, home cooked dinners, meeting in random cities across America, and the drive back from Seattle, among others) we find this beautiful couple celebrating their wedding day with so many people who are special to them.

 

Marina, with all the love in her heart, feels that their inspiration lies within the very community gathered here today. In her own words she says "Our family and friends make this moment come alive for us. Our families coming together and embracing our marriage make us feel so very much loved: My engagement ring is Ron's Grandmother Pearl's ring, and this beautiful dress I'm wearing is his mother's wedding dress --what an honor."

 

Ron & Marina have assessed happily that their relationship is for life. They have found each other, they like each other, they love each other, they want it to last, they intend it to last, they Will it to last. So...on this New York Landscape of Love we celebrate Ron and Marina's wonderful inspiration!

 

 

~

 

 

READING 1

 

Celebrant:

Central to that inspiration is the way that Marina and Ron are simultaneously friends and lovers. Luciano and Cleo, dear friends for many years, will read the poem "My Friend" as a dedication to both of you on this very special day.

 

My Friend ~ Luciano

 

I love you

not only for what you are

but for what I am

when I am with you.

 

I love you

not only for what

you have made of yourself

but for what you are making of me. 

 

I love you

because you have done more

than any creed could have done

to make me good, and more

than any fate could have done

to make me happy.

You have done it without a touch,

without a word

Without a sign.

You have done it

by being yourself.

 

 

 

Mi Amigo ~ Cleo

 

Yo te amo

no solo por lo que tu eres

sino por lo que soy

cuando estoy contigo.

 

Yo te amo

no solo por lo que

tu haz hecho de ti mismo

sino por lo que tu estas haciendo de mi.

 

Yo te amo

porque tu haz hecho más

de lo que cualquier credo hubiese podido hacer

para hacerme bien, y más de lo

que cualquier destino hubiese podido hacer

para hacerme feliz.

 

Tu lo haz hecho sin tocarme

sin una palabra

sin una sena

tu lo haz hecho

siendo tu mismo.

 

 

READING

 

Celebrant:

As a blessing for the union we are witnessing today, Toni and Alberto will read for us the "Apache Wedding Prayer" whose unknown author was among those who first settled this continent. Toni, who came from Michigan to be with us today, has known Ron since their years together in High School. Alberto, who lives in New Jersey, is Marina's cousin and has been a friend and help to her since she first moved to this country.

 

 

"The Apache Wedding Prayer" ~ Toni

 

Now you will feel no rain,

for each of you will be shelter for the other.

 

Now you will feel no cold,

for each will be warmth for the other

 

Now you will feel no loneliness,

for each of you will be companion to the other.

 

Now you are two persons,

but there are three lives before you:

his life, her life, and your life together.

 

May beauty surround you both

on the journey ahead and through all the years.

 

May happiness be your companion

to the place where the river meets the sun.

 

Go now to your dwelling

to enter into the days of your life together.

 

And may your days be good

And long upon the earth.

 

 

“La oracion del matrimonio apache” ~ Alberto

 

Ahora ustedes no sentirán lluvia

porque cada uno será un refugio para el otro.


Ahora ustedes no sentirán frío

porque cada uno será calor para el otro.

 

Ahora ustedes no sentirán soledad

porque cada uno será compañía para el otro.

 

Ahora ustedes son dos personas

pero hay tres vidas ante ustedes:

la vida de él, la vida de ella, y su vida juntos.

 

Ojalá que la belleza los rodee a los dos

en el camino que empiezan y a través de los años.

 

Ojalá que la felicidad sea su compañía

Hacia el lugar donde el río encuentra el sol.

 

Vayan ahora a su hogar

para comenzar los días de su vida juntos.

 

Y ojalá que sus días sean buenos

y duraderos sobre la tierra.

 

 

 

PRESENTATION

 

Celebrant: 

Today we honor one of the deepest relationships in life as Marina's parents, Jairo and Louisa, present their daughter to be married to Ron. It is important to Marina that her parents stand beside her today, and present her to Ron in marriage. Marina also wishes to thank her Father and Mother for all of their encouragement and love throughout the years -- especially today. Her parents have traveled so far from their home in Colombia to be with their loving daughter and son-in-law on their wedding day!

 

~

 

 

 

THE ASKING

 

Celebrant: Standing now in this community’s presence, we prepare to formally unite Marina and Ron in matrimony. I will ask each of them to commit in English; Marina's loving brother Juan will translate the “Asking of the Bride and Groom’s Hand in Marriage” into Spanish.

 

Celebrant to Groom: Ron and Marina, face each other, hold hands and repeat after me.

 

Jon,

Will you take Marina to be your lawful wedded wife?

Will you love and respect her, comfort her,

Honor and keep her, in sickness and in health,

And, forsaking all others, keep only onto her,

So you can genuinely share your life together,

As long as you both shall live?

 

Groom: I do.

 

Jaun translates:

 

Acepta usted a Marina para que sea su esposa?

La amara, respetara y confortara,

La honrara y la mantendrá a su lado en la salud y en la enfermedad,

Y promete serle fiel, para que puedan genuinamente compartir sus vidas,

Hasta que la muerte los separe?

 

Groom: Si

 

Celebrant to Bride:

 

Marina,

Will you take Ron to be your lawful wedded husband?

Will you love and respect him, comfort him,

Honor and keep him, in sickness and in health,

And, forsaking all others, keep only onto him,

So you can genuinely share your life together,

as long as you both shall live?

 

Bride: I do.

 

Juan translates:

 

Acepta usted a Ron para que sea su esposo?

Lo amara, respetara y confortara,

Lo honrara y lo mantendrá a su lado en la salud y en la enfermedad,

Y promete serle fiel, para que puedan genuinamente compartir sus vidas,

Hasta que la muerte los separe?

 

Bride: Si

VOWS

 

Celebrant to Groom:

Ron, repeat after me…

 

I, Ron, take you, Marina, as my wife.

I pledge to share my life openly with you,

To speak the truth to you in love.

I promise to honor and tenderly care for you,

To cherish and encourage your own fulfillment as an individual,

For the rest of my life.

 

Juan to Groom:

Yo, Ron,

te acepto,

Marina,

como mi esposa,

Y prometo compartir

mi vida abiertamente contigo,

decirte la verdad con amor,

prometo honrarte

y cuidarte tiernamente,

cultivar y promover

tu realización

como persona,

por el resto de mi vida.

 

Celebrant to Bride:

Marina, repeat after me…

 

I, Marina, take you Ron, as my husband.

I pledge to share my life openly with you,

To speak the truth to you in love.

I promise to honor and tenderly care for you,

To cherish and encourage your own fulfillment as an individual,

For the rest of my life.

 

 Juan to Bride:

 

Yo, Marina, te acepto, Ron, como mi esposo,

Y prometo compartir mi vida abiertamente contigo,

decirte la verdad con amor,

prometo honrarte y cuidarte tiernamente,

cultivar y promover tu realización como persona,

Por el resto de mi vida.

~

 

 

 

RING CEREMONY

 

Celebrant:

The rings Marina and Ron will present to each other are perfectly round, with no beginning and no end. So may their love go on forever.

 

Celebrant to Groom:

Ron repeat after me…

Marina,

With this ring,

I thee wed.

Take and wear it as a pledge of my love,

and as a symbol of all we share.

 

Celebrant to Bride:

 Marina repeat after me…

Ron,

With this ring,

I thee wed.

Take and wear it as a pledge of my love,

and as a symbol of all we share.

~

 

 

SHARING OF THE WINE

 

Celebrant:

Love makes burdens lighter because you divide them; it makes joys more intense because you share them. It makes you stronger so you can reach out and become involved with life in ways you would never dare risk alone. The glass of wine you are about to share is symbolic of the overflowing cup that life provides you.

 

Ron and Marina, as you share this wine now, you promise to share all that the future may bring. All the sweetness the cup of life may hold for you should be sweeter because you drink it together; and whatever drops of bitterness it may contain should be lessened because they are shared. On behalf of all your family and friends we wish you all the blessings that life can bring -- joy and gladness, love and companionship, happiness and prosperity, contentment and peace, all the days of your life.

 

 

THE SIGNING

 

Celebrant:

I now ask the Groom’s sisters, Renee, Janet, Susan, and Tara, and the Bride’s brothers, Jaun and Alan, to come forward and sign Marina and Ron’s marriage certificate. 

 

 

~

 

 

 

WEDDING BLESSING

 

Celebrant:

In the words of Spanish writer, Jose Marti:

 

In Spanish:

“El amor

nace

con el placer de contemplarse,

se alimenta

con la necesidad de verse,

y concluye

con la imposibilidad

de separarse”.

 

In English:

“Love is born

with the pleasure of looking at each other,

it is fed

with the necessity

of seeing each other,

it is concluded with the impossibility

 of ever being apart.”

 

~

 

 

 

DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE

 

Celebrant:

Marina and Ron have proclaimed before all of us that they will live together in marriage. They have made promises to each other. They have symbolized their union by joining hands, taking vows, sharing wine, and exchanging rings. Therefore, on behalf of the community, I now declare them to be husband and wife.

 

And now to conclude our ceremony, Ron has chosen to break the glass, in his family's tradition. Of the many different interpretations of this tradition, our favorite is the idea that it will bring good luck to the newly married couple. And as Ron breaks the glass on the count of tres', I invite you ALL to join me in wishing them good luck by shouting out... "Mazel Tov!” or “congratulations!" Ready?! uno....dos....tres...

 

Ron and Marina -- as if you needed my permission! -- you may kiss your spouse!

 

 

 

~ Here Ends the Ceremony, and Here Begins a Life of Love & Joy ~

 

 

(2) Wedding Ceremony involving Children/Stepchildren

THE WEDDING OF ELIZABETH & CARLOS

________________________________________________________

 

THE PROCESSIONAL

 

THE ENTRANCE OF THE BRIDE

 

Celebrant: Please stand to greet the Bride.

 

Music Selection/Bride’s Entrance: I’m your Lady - Celine Dion

Bride enters with her SON.

 

Music Cue: Song fades out

 

Celebrant: Please be seated. 

 

 

PRESENTATION OF THE BRIDE

Celebrant: 

Today we honor one of the deepest relationships in life as Elizabeth’s son and daughter present their Mother in marriage. 

 

Celebrant (to BRIDE’S SON and DAUGHTER):

And so I ask, who, on behalf of all of us, presents Elizabeth to be married to Carlos? 

 

BRIDE’S SON and DAUGHTER: We do.

 

 

MONITUM

Celebrant:

Elizabeth and Carlos,

I, Cynthia Reed, a Civil Ordained Celebrant,

am duly authorized by the law

to solemnize this, your marriage,

according to the laws of New Jersey.

 

But before you are joined together in marriage in my presence

and in the presence of these witnesses,

I am bound to remind you

of the solemn, the serious and the binding nature

of the relationship into which you are now about

to enter.

 

Marriage, as most of us understand it,

is a voluntary and full commitment

of a man to a woman,

and a woman to a man,

it is made in the deepest sense

to the exclusion of all others,

and is entered into with the desire,

the hope and the firm intention

that it will last for life.

 

INTRODUCTION

Celebrant:

We are gathered here in the presence of God to join in marriage Carlos and Elizabeth, and to bear witness to the transforming power of true love. We give thanks to God for Carlos and Elizabeth, for their open hearts and their willing spirits, and for the example of love that they embody here in our presence. We ask the Lord to be with them on this joyous occasion and throughout their lives.

 

Carlos and Elizabeth have known each other for about 20 years. They met through Elizabeth’s best friend and Carlos’s cousin, Anna, who is also Elizabeth’s daughter’s godmother. As Carlos recalls, “At the time, I had a major crush on her, but due to the fact that I was younger than her, I figured she would never give me a chance.” He may have been right. Elizabeth remembers it as a quick meeting and that, she says, “There was no immediate attraction.” And yet, there was something about Carlos that intrigued her. “Every time I saw Carlos I seemed to stare at him with a curious feeling inside. I couldn’t explain it back then and I can’t explain it now. It was almost like I felt that we were going to be something big in the future.”

 

For Carlos, his love for her has always been there, even since those early years. “I just knew that she was the one for me.” When they started seeing each other, he says, “I felt that even though we just had started dating, we had been together for a very long time. In short, it all just felt natural.” He knew he wanted to be with Elizabeth forever from the moment they decided to move in together. “Our love for one another pulls us together during any ups and downs,” Carlos says, “we complement each other and keep a harmonious balance in our relationship.” “I love Elizabeth,” he says, “because she is more than a companion, she is my best friend.”

 

Elizabeth knew that she loved Carlos too, but this love touched her in her heart when he asked her to marry him. “I knew I loved him before this but the love I felt for him on this day was unbelievable. This is because we are living together and he knows what a difficult, stressed out person I can be. He knows my children. After knowing all this about my life I couldn’t believe he wanted to commit with my children and me forever.” She says, “He even encourages my alone time with the kids. He shows me how unselfish he is. He accepts me – my whole life.” Carlos, Elizabeth says, makes their house into a home.

 

The relationship Elizabeth and Carlos have with Elizabeth’s children is especially important. Today we witness the joining together not only of husband and wife, but of a family. Carlos loves that Elizabeth is a good loving mother. Elizabeth knows that Carlos loves her children as if they were his own. He encourages the children to be the best that they can be. 

 

In return, Elizabeth’s children have welcomed Carlos. Elizabeth notes that when Carlos works late they ask for him. They show that they miss his absence. They want to share special moments with him. They even would ask Carlos to ask Elizabeth to marry him! Carlos thanks them for allowing him to share the rest of his life with them and their mother. 

 

Together, Carlos and Elizabeth look forward to having a united, healthy, happy and prosperous family, and to continue to share the love they now share with each other.

 

They also wish to thank you, their families and friends, for being here to share their joy. Your presence means everything to them, and it is their honor to share their happiness with the ones they love and care for. Elizabeth and Carlos practically grew up together, and their families are like one big family. Elizabeth especially thanks her mother who through the years has shown her hope, love and patience, and the most beautiful gift of all: faith in God. Carlos especially thanks his mother and sister for always being caring and understanding and always supportive in times of need.

 

Carlos and Elizabeth also wish to remember those special people, no longer with us, who have been so important to their lives. Elizabeth remembers her father and her brother. She feels in her heart that they are happy for her and her children, and that they are angels who somehow had something to do with orchestrating this union. Carlos remembers his Grandmother. We know that all of these souls are with us today in light and love, supporting this marriage and this family.

 

As you join in their wedding today, Carlos and Elizabeth would like for you to feel how much love they have in their family and to know how happy they are to be united. They would like you to share their vision that this is a marriage that was meant to be, that their paths were meant to cross. God intended that Carlos and Elizabeth be brought together for this unity, and so they are.

 

READING

 

Celebrant:

Before they make their vows to one another, Elizabeth and Carlos would like to share a reading for one another.

 

Bride:

Two lives, two people, so very different, yet so similar. Together we stand as one, sharing our future as it comes. The past is that past. Buds are yet to blossom, with care and trust, the best is yet to be revealed. Honesty and kindness, are the fruits of love. Lord bless this day and always to enrich us so our love will never end.

 

Groom:

The author George Eliot said:

“What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel they are joined for life -- to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent, unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting.”

 

READING

 

Celebrant:

Kahlil Gibran, in his book “The Prophet”, reflects on marriage. He says:

 

Love one another but make not a bond of love;

let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. 

Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. 

Sing and dance together and be joyous,

but let each one of you be alone. 

Even as the strings of the lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

 

When two people marry, they bring with them all the experiences of their pasts. 

Each has strengths and knowledge to share with the other. 

Each is unique and thus their particular marriage will be unique.  

Each partner must respect the other's individualism.

More than likely, this individualism is what attracted each to the other.”

 

 

THE VOWS

Celebrant:

Carlos and Elizabeth, please join hands and face each other and recite the vows that you both composed.

 

Groom:

Elizabeth, I love you and I know this love is from God and is meant to be. 

Because of this, I want to be your husband. 

As the two of us are joined on this day, we become part of each other:

your feelings become my feelings;

your sorrows become my sorrows;

your joys become my joys;

your cares become my cares,

and your children become my children.

With God’s help and guidance I promise to be a true and faithful husband and father,

always there to comfort you, rejoice with you,

and endure all the complexities of life that we will face together as a family

over the years to come.

My love for you and these children is pure and unshakable,

and I hereby commit myself to all of you from this day forward.

 

Bride:

Carlos, I love you and I know that this love is from God and is meant to be.

Because of you, I laugh, I smile, I dare to dream again.  

I found a kind, caring, unselfish man in you. 

A true man who is able to sincerely love and befriend my children. 

It is because of these reasons that I look forward with great joy

to spending the rest of my life with you, caring for you, nurturing you,

being there for you in all life has for us. 

With God’s help and guidance I promise to be a true and faithful wife,

always there to comfort you, rejoice with you,

and endure all the complexities of life that we will face together as a family

over the years to come. 

My love for you is pure and unshakable,

and I hereby commit myself to all of you from this day forward.

 

THE ASKING

Celebrant to the groom:

Carlos,

Will you take Elizabeth to be your lawful wedded wife?

Will you love and respect her,

be honest with her,

and stand by her through whatever may come,

so you can genuinely share your life together?

 

Groom:

I do.

 

Celebrant to the Bride:

Elizabeth,

Will you take Carlos to be your lawful wedded husband?

will you love and respect him,

be honest with him,

and stand by him through whatever may come,

so you can genuinely share your life together?

 

Bride:

I do.

 

THE RING CEREMONY

 

Celebrant:

Elizabeth’s Mother will now come forward to bless the rings.
 

The Blessing of the Rings

 

Elizabeth’s Mother:

Padre santo, creador del universo, que modelaste al hombre y la mujer a tu imagen y semejanza, y bendijiste su union matrimonial: te rogamos por estos esposos que hoy se han unido en matrimonio. Descienda, Senor, sobre ellos tu abundante bendicion: que sus hijos sean alegria de su hogar, progreso del mundo y riqueza de tu Iglesia. Que en la alegria sepan darte gracias, Senor, y en la tristeza te busquen; en el trabajo encuentren el gozo de tu ayuda en las necesidades sientan cercano tu consuelo; que participen en la oracion de tu Iglesia, y den testimonio de ti entre los hombres; que tengan una vida larga y feliz, y que, un dia, rodeados de los amigos que hoy los acompanan, lleguen a tu reino eterno. Por Jesucristo nuestro Senor. R/. Amen.

 

The Ring Vows

 

Groom:

Elizabeth, I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.

I choose you to be my wife,

to have and to hold, from this day forward,

for better or for worse, for richer for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

to love and to cherish,

as long as we both shall live.

 

Bride:

Carlos, I give you this ring, wear it with love and joy.

I choose you to be my husband:

to have and to hold, from this day forward.

For better, for worse, for richer for poorer;

in sickness and in health,

to love and to cherish,

as long as we both shall live.

 

 

The Family Pendant Ceremony

 

Celebrant:

Carlos, and Elizabeth, the rings you have given to one another are symbols of your commitment to one another, but they are also more. For today you are also making a commitment to the children. Today you are pledging your love to them as well, committing to them that you will create a family together. Let the perfect circle of the wedding ring embrace your children, as well as the two of you. For our children are gifts entrusted to us.

 

Consider these words from The Prophet: You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, for they dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, in their innocence, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.  

 

As the Family Medallion is placed around the neck of each child, it provides a unique opportunity for those being married to pledge their love to all the children either spouse brings to the marriage.  

 

Celebrant to the Children:

As a symbol of the two families joined as one today, a special gift will now be presented to each of you. As you receive your token of family unity, always remember the love that has brought all of you together and that will guide you and nurture you in the years ahead.

 

THE ROSE CEREMONY

Celebrant:

Carlos and Elizabeth, I would ask that where ever you make your home in the future - whether it be a large and elegant home - or a small and graceful one - that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that spot both as a recommitment to your marriage - and a recommitment that THIS will be a marriage based upon love.

In every marriage there are times when it is difficult to find the right words. It is easiest to hurt those who we most love. It is easiest to be most hurt by those who we most love. It might be difficult sometimes to say the words "I am sorry" or "I forgive you"; "I need you" or "I am hurting". If this should happen, if you simply cannot find these words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected - for that rose says what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all other words.

That rose says the words "I still love you". The other should accept this rose for the words that cannot be found, and remember the love and hope that you both share today.

Carlos and Elizabeth, if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love that can make it a glorious union, and it is by love that your marriage shall endure.

 

In this spirit, you will each now hand a rose to the other.

 

The Bride and Groom hand each other a rose.
 

Celebrant:

Not only are Carlos and Elizabeth creating a marriage today, but they also are forming a family. Just as it is appropriate for Carlos and Elizabeth to begin their marriage by affirming their love for each other with the gift of a rose, they also wish to show you, their children, how much they love you with the gift of a rose.

 

The Bride and Groom hand each child a rose, give them a hug, and whisper "I love you."

 

READING

 

Celebrant:

The Groom’s sister will now read for us The Prayer of St. Francis.

 

The Prayer of St. Francis

God, make Carlos and Elizabeth a channel of your peace: 

That where there is hatred they may bring love; 
Where there is hurt they may bring the spirit of forgiveness; 
Where there is doubt they may bring faith; 
Where there is despair they may bring hope; 
Where there is darkness they may bring light; 
Where there is sadness they may bring joy. 

For it is by giving that they shall receive, by losing that they shall find, by forgiving that they shall be forgiven. 

God grant that they seek rather to comfort than to be comforted, 
To understand than to be understood, 

To love than to be loved.

BLESSING OF THE MARRIAGE

 

Celebrant:

Elizabeth and Carlos have asked me to read “The Apache Wedding Prayer” as a blessing for their marriage:

 

Now you will feel no rain, 
For each of you will be shelter to the other.


Now you will feel no cold, 
For each of you will be warmth to the other.


Now there is no loneliness for you, 
For though you are two bodies, you are only one life.


Go now to your dwelling place, 
To enter into the days of your togetherness. 
May your days be good and long upon this earth.

 

 

DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE

 

Celebrant:

Carlos and Elizabeth have declared before us that they will live together in marriage and promise to include God in their life, which will help them to provide a loving home for their children. They have made special promises to each other and to their children. They have symbolized their union by joining hands and taking vows, and bestowing gifts. 

 

Therefore, on behalf of the community, I now declare Carlos and Elizabeth to be husband and wife. I am honored to introduce you to Mr. & Mrs. Carlos Chavez!

 

You may now kiss each other!

 

 

RECESSIONAL

 

(3) Civil Ceremony

THE WEDDING of JEANNINE & RAY

___________________________________________

 

 

ENTRANCE OF THE BRIDE & GROOM

“Doe Eyes (Love Theme from the Bridges of Madison County)”

 

 

INTRODUCTION

 

Celebrant:

We gather today to celebrate the marriage of Jeannine and Ray, five years to the day from when they started dating. 

 

Jeannine and Ray met at work, and began playing tennis together. Jeannine says that once he started winning, she became interested in him. Their first date was a trip to Atlantic City – a trip that sealed their fate. After they kissed for the first time, Ray told Jeannine, “I can’t believe I kissed a manager!” They fell in love quickly. Jeannine knew about a year later that she wanted to be with Ray forever. They were spending most of their time together, and when he wasn’t there, she missed him. 

 

Ray admits that at this point in his life, he was a little afraid of making a lifetime commitment. But this all changed when the couple split up for a few days. Without Jeannine, he was miserable. “I knew then,” he says, “that I didn’t want to be without her.” He got down on one knee and proposed. Jeannine was so shocked, she couldn’t speak for about five minutes. Then, of course, she said yes.

 

Jeannine loves Ray’s unique blend of kindness and strength, his impersonations of Cher and Elvis, and how much he shows that he cares for her. Ray loves Jeannine because she is so generous and has such a good heart. “She is always there for me,” he says. They love relaxing at home with a good movie and a couple of drinks. They love to do things for each other. They look forward to living a long, healthy and unstressed life together, and to being as happy tomorrow as they are today.

 

They are grateful for your presence here today to share in their happiness. They wish to acknowledge their love for their present and future families, especially their children, who stand with them tonight.

 

Ray and Jeannine do not enter into marriage lightly, but with an experienced and mature view of how much work a strong marriage requires every day. In many ways, today is a public recognition of a marriage of the human spirit that already exists in the hearts of this couple. They hope that you leave here today filled with their happiness, and spread it to others. Ray would like to hear people leave saying: “They look like a good match. It will be a good marriage.”

 

 

THE VOWS

Celebrant:

The couple has written their own vows, and before they recite them, they want everyone to understand that although parts of the vows may sound humorous, these promises they make to each other are sincere and heartfelt. Indeed, in my experience, Ray and Jeannine, by their vows, recognize those things that truly make a marriage strong – living everyday life together with grace and patience.

 

Now, I, a Civil Ordained Celebrant, am duly authorized to solemnize this marriage according to the laws of the State of New Jersey. 

 

Ray and Jeannine, please face one another to make your vows. 

 

Jeannine:

I, Jeannine, take you Ray

to be my husband,

best friend,

lover,

confidant,

and gambling partner.

To love and to cherish, from this day forward,

for better, for worse,

for richer, for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

for the rest of my life.

I promise to be true,

to be faithful,

to support your stock market endeavors,

to tolerate your coughing,

and despite any faults you may have,

I promise to love and stand by you all the days of my life.

 

 

Ray:

I, Ray, take you Jeannine

to be my wife,

best friend,

lover,

confidant,

and consigliore,

To love and cherish, from this day forward,

for better, for worse,

for richer, for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

for the rest of my life.

I promise to be true,

to be faithful,

to root for the Dallas Cowboys,

to tolerate your smoking,

and despite any faults you may have,

I promise to love and stand by you all the days of my life.

 

 

THE RING CEREMONY

Ray: 

Jeannine,

This wedding band I give you

has no beginning and no end.

It symbolizes my unending love for you.

 

Jeannine: 

Ray,

This wedding band I give you

has no beginning and no end.

It symbolizes my unending love for you.

 

 

FAMILY CANDLE CEREMONY

Celebrant:

This wedding ceremony represents more than just the joining of a couple, we are also witnessing the creation of a new family. I invite Ray’s and Jeannine’s children to join their parents at the table here in the center.

 

Ray, Jeannine, Chris, Lisa, Amy and Cory, to symbolize your unity as a family, you will now join in lighting the Family Unity Candle. You will each dip your taper candle into the already-lit votive candle. Then, you will join your flames together to light the Family Candle in the center.

 

 Music Selection/Candle Lighting: Piano Selection

  

Celebrant:

As you join your candles together to light the single Family Candle, the flame flares higher than before. The united flame is a strong symbol. It symbolizes the unity of family, and how all of your lives will be richer because of your common bond of love.

 

From this moment forward may the light of life shine bright for you all.

 

 

DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE

 

Celebrant:

Jeannine and Ray have declared before us that they will live together in marriage. They have made special promises to each other and to their children. They have symbolized their union by taking vows and exchanging rings. Therefore, on behalf of the community, I now declare them to be husband and wife. I am honored to introduce you to Mr. & Mrs. Ray Marinello!

 

You may kiss each other!

  

RECESSIONAL

“I Finally Found Someone” by Bryan Adams & Barbara Streisand

(4) Inter Faith Ceremony

THE WEDDING OF PENELOPE & HAMID

 

POURING OF THE LIBATION

Celebrant:

Welcome everyone, please be seated and settle in, and turn off your cell phones and beepers as we now begin the ceremony, thank you.

 

Tariq and Sarah will share the Pouring of the Libation with us…

 

Tariq: An African proverb tells us that people who lack the knowledge of their past are like a tree without roots. So, in the spirit of remembrance, we pour this libation. We pour to honor the past, so that we may learn from it. We pour to honor the importance of family. We raise our cup to God to show our reverence for the original source of our lives. We use cool water as a symbol of the continuity of life, to purify and to nourish our souls. We pour to celebrate the coming together of these two families.

 

Tariq: It is said that through others, we are somebody. Through this marriage, we broaden our family circle, remember our heritage and recall those who gave us life. We call upon our ancestors—our mothers, grandmothers and great grandmothers, our fathers, grandfathers and our great-grandfathers, uncles, aunts and cousins – the foundations of our families, immortalized in our thoughts.

 

Tariq: We call upon our elders, whose wisdom we seek in all endeavors. Our friends, whom we are blessed to have in our lives, our parents who guided us along the road to adulthood. We call upon family who have passed over and could not be here to day. We ask that they be with us in our thoughts. We call upon the Bride and Groom, that they may always find prosperity in love and devotion. We ask that this couple be blessed by children, because children give glory to a home.

 

Sarah: Place your minds with those who could not be here today. Family, friends and ancestors who have passed on, are ill, or simply could not find their way here. Place your thoughts with this person or persons so that they may bear witness to this union in spirit.

 

Sarah: Therefore we cast our libation to the North, to the South, to the East and to the West. We wish everyone to leave more blessed than when they came. Amen.

 

 

THE PROCESSIONAL

“A Wedding Song” By Kenny G

 

 

ENTRANCE OF THE BRIDE

“The Wedding March” by Mendelssohn

 

 

INTRODUCTION

Celebrant:

It is one of life’s richest surprises when the accidental meeting of two individuals leads them to proceed together along a common path. It is indeed one of life’s finest experiences when a chance relationship grows into apermanent bond of love. This meeting and this growing are what bring us together today.

 

The uniting in a marriage of these two friends to establish a new family is an important and memorable event. It brings together two separate families and backgrounds and creates a union that is a sign of hope in the midst of a sometimes intolerant society.

 

In their love for each other, which they publicly express in this ceremony, Hamid and Penelope demonstrate not only their joy in the present but their commitment to share the future together. This is a time of celebration for all of us who know and love them.

 

The rich surprise and accidental meeting happened when a couple years back Penelope noticed Hamid in the main lobby at Essex County College. That chance glance has led us all here today ~ how wonderful! At first, Penelope was saddened to think that Hamid might not feel that Penelope was his “type” due to their different religious upbringings ~ so, she left it alone. But the fates intervened…as they often do. One day, Penelope got a note from someone on BlackPlanet.com. She says with a spark in her eyes, “When I checked out the picture, I recognized Hamid immediately.” Hamid could not believe it either. It was the first time he logged onto this site, little did he know that the time had come to meet the girl of his dreams. It was “e-mail” that shot twin arrows of love high in the air and we all know where they landed ~ right here, right now. Love knows no bounds. They went on their first date to The International House of Pancakes. And, they tell me, “We’ve been together ever since.” Truly a natural match…like pancakes and maple syrup, a wonderful recipe …right from the start!

 

That is how they met; now this is how they feel about each other and their marriage together…

 

When asked what they love about one another Penelope answers with joy, “I love how Hamid makes me laugh and makes me feel safe when I’m in his arms. I love the way he looks at me. And most of all, I love that he is my best friend too.” Hamid echoes these sentiments only to add that when he looks into Penelope’s golden brown eyes and sees her effervescent smile ~ that this is his true joy.

 

Hamid and Penelope have hopes of the future they would like to share with you today. Penelope hopes that their passion for each other never withers, and that as a couple they grow fonder of one another as the years pass. Hamid wants everyone to know how proud he is of Penelope and how he looks forward, in years to come, when he and his lovely Penelope are blessed as grandparents.

 

They love many of the same things in life: music, each other’s company, their desire to grow their family and…they look forward to the future when they can have their own business together.

 

It is clear that they are honored and proud of each other in so many ways” Penelope’s spark and love of life, her way with children, her intelligence,” Hamid tells me, is everything I ever wished for in a woman to share my life with, and to be my wife”. Penelope is the apple of Hamid’s eye ~ no doubt about it!

 

Penelope says, in her own words, that she has chosen Hamid because “He is the first man in my life that makes me feel committed to giving my everything, my love and life to Hamid forevermore.

 

They each bring particular strengths to the relationship, Penelope is the light-hearted adventurer as Hamid declares! She is open to new ideas…unattainable possibilities are attainable. Hamid brings his love and true friendship to their relationship. Together they support and encourage each other through thick and thin. And most importantly, they share the same values that will help build and sustain their strong sense of “family”.

 

It means so very much for you their dear family and friends to be here today. Hamid says it very eloquently for both him and Penelope…“We are with our families and friends every day. They are apart of our every day lives, so we continue on that path. Yes, this is a very special day in deed, but we believe that every day we share together is just one more of the many blessed days in our lives…and, there will be many, many more to come.” They thank you all and especially their loving mothers in being a very special part in this ceremony. Their mother’s represent the unification of both families, in their steadfast support and love for Penelope and Hamid’s marriage to each other. Our mothers bring the light of life into the world and pass it on gloriously through their children to continue the beautiful and strong ~ permanent bond of love.

 

 

PRESENTATION OF THE BRIDE

Celebrant: Who brings this woman to stand beside this man?

 

Bride’s Father: I do

 

Celebrant: We are honored to have Daniel present his daughter on this very special day. Daniel, on behalf of both families, are you willing now and always to support and strengthen this marriage by upholding both Penelope and Hamid with your love and support?

 

Bride’s Father: I do

 

THE ASKING

Celebrant to the Groom:

Hamid,

Will you take Penelope to be your lawful wife?

Will you love her and comfort her,

Honor and keep her, in sickness and in health,

And, forsaking all others, keep only onto her,

So long as you both shall live?

 

Groom: I will

 

Celebrant to the Bride:

Penelope,

Will you take Hamid to be your lawful husband?

Will you love him and comfort him,

Honor and keep him, in sickness and in health,

And, forsaking all others, keep only onto him,

So long as you both shall live?

 

Bride: I will

 

 

THE VOWS

Groom:

I, Hamidullah, take you Penelope, to be my lawful wife,

to have and to hold, from this day forward,

for better for worse, for richer for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

to love and to cherish,

for the rest of my life.

 

 

Bride:

I, Penelope, take you Hamidullah, to be my lawful husband,

to have and to hold, from this day forward,

for better for worse, for richer for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

to love and to cherish,

for the rest of my life.

 

 

THE RING CEREMONY

Groom:

Penelope,

With this ring,

I thee wed.

Take and wear it as a pledge of my love,

And as a symbol of all we share.

 

Bride:

Hamidullah,

With this ring,

I thee wed.

Take and wear it as a pledge of my love,

And as a symbol of all we share.

 

 

HANDS OF THE BRIDE AND GROOM CEREMONY

Celebrant: Xavier and Tessa will now perform the Hands of the Bride and Groom Ceremony…

 

Xavier:

Penelope, please face Hamid, and hold his hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.

 

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the days of his life.

 

These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.

 

These are the hands you will place with expectant joy against your stomach, until he too, feels his child stir within you.

 

These are the hands that look so larger and strong, yet will be so gentle as he holds your baby for the first time.

 

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears of sorrow and joy from your eyes.

 

These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief wracks your mind.

 

These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin to look into his eyes that are filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you.

 

Tessa:

Hamid, please hold Penelope’s hands, and hold her hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.

 

These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she pledges her love and commitment to you all the days of her life.

 

These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope, each time she tells you that you are to have another child, that together you have created a new life.

 

These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness

And hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way.

 

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

 

These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving.

 

These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams.

 

Xavier and Tessa:

God, bless these hands that you see before you this day. May they always be held by one another. Give them strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love. Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in your grace, rich in caring, and devoted in reaching for your perfection. May Hamid and Penelope see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide. We ask this in your name, Amen.

 

Celebrant: Thank you (to Tessa and Xavier as they wrap the Bride and Groom’s hands). Penelope and Hamid please face forward…

 

 

CANDLE LIGHTING CEREMONY

Celebrant:

Penelope and Hamid have said their marriage vows to each other and now they will light their marriage candle uniting their families. First their mothers will light these two smaller candles, which represent their individual lives before today.

 

Celebrant:

Please light the two smaller candles.

 

Celebrant:

These flames each burn with the warmth and love that your family and friends have fostered in each of you. Penelope & Hamid, you have used ancient symbols in this wedding service—the exchange of rings, the clasping of hands, the bearing of flowers. And now, let us participate in another symbolic act. Each of you will take the candle lit by your mothers, and together you will light one larger candle. This is a vivid reminder that in true marriage our lives are merged, even as we remain individuals. This is a symbolic prayer that God will enhance your own personhood and bless your uniqueness as individuals: but that God will also make of your hands ONE hand...of your hearts ONE heart...of your families ONE family…and of your lives ONE life.

 

Celebrant:

Hamid and Penelope please light your marriage candle, simultaneously, by the two individual candles your mothers have lit.

 

As you join the two candles together to light the single marriage candle, the flame flares higher than before. This flame of love symbolizes how Hamid and Penelope’s lives will be richer in their union.

 

The united flame is a strong symbol. It represents the warmth of their love the sacredness of their relationship, and the light that will guide them through everyday of their future together.

 

From this moment forward may the light of life shine bright for Penelope, Hamid and both families.

 

 

SIGNING OF THE CERTIFICATE

Celebrant:

Ladies and Gentlemen, I will ask the Bride and Groom and the two witnesses to come to the table to sign the Wedding Certificate.

 

The signing is and ancient tradition and is a part of the ceremony. During this time I will also ask you to give your attention to a very special piece of music that Penelope and Hamid have chosen for just this occasion entitled: “Spend My Life With You”, sung by Trevor.

 

When the signing is completed…I will bring them back to this position to

present them with the Marriage Certificate. Then…they’re all yours!

 

Celebrant:

Friends and Family, after the Declaration of Marriage and the Jumping of the Broom Ceremony which follows immediately, please allow the Bride and Groom to Recess out and give the Parents and Grandparents the opportunity of congratulating the couple first and foremost…followed by the Guests. You are all then invited to the reception in the ballroom.

 

 

DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE

Celebrant:

Ladies and Gentlemen,

Hamid and Penelope have declared before all of us that they will live together in marriage. They have made special promises to each other. They have symbolized it by joining hands, taking vows, and by exchanging rings.

 

So, therefore, on behalf of the community, I now declare Hamidullah and Penelope to be husband and wife…I give to you the new Mr. and Mrs. Hussam!

 

Hamid - kiss your bride!

 

 

JUMPING OF THE BROOM CEREMONY

Celebrant:

Broom Bearers ~ Siraj and Sadiq…

 

One, two, three, Jump!!!

Wed, Oct 31 2012
(5) Vow Renewal Ceremony

 

Vow Renewal Ceremony

Let this be a day of gladness, thanksgiving, possibility, and good fortune for all of us, but especially for (Groom) and (Bride), who are here to renew and celebrate their love. Just as spring blossoms anew after a harsh winter, so must spouses renew their love for each other in their daily lives. Today marks the ________ anniversary of your marriage vows and today you renew your vows and love as husband and wife. Today begins the new spring of this year's love. So may it be renewed each day in your hearts.

Favorite Poem:


(_________________________________)

Vows:


Groom and Bride, have you come here freely and with the intention of a renewal of your marriage vows?
(Both answer, We Have)

Will you continue to love and honor each other as man and wife every day as you have promised to do?

(Both answer, We Do.)

Will you love, comfort and honor, keeping each other forever more?

(Both answer,We Will)

Groom do you again take Bride as your wife, will you continue to be faithful to her in tender love and honor, offering encouragement and companionship and will you continue to live with her and cherish her?
(Groom answers I do)

Bride do you again take Groom as your husband, will you continue to be faithful to him in tender love and honor, offering encouragement and companionship and will you continue to live with him and cherish him?
(Bride answers I do)



Rings:

The wedding ring is the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual bond, which unites two loyal hearts in endless love. These circles are designed without an ending, so they speak of eternity. May the incorruptible substance of these rings represent a love glowing with increasing luster through the years and may all good and holy beings upon this Earth bless these rings which you give to each other as the sign of your love, trust, faithfulness, respect and devotion.

Groom, repeat after me...
With this ring, I continue my promise to you that I will be your faithful partner in life,

Bride, repeat after me...
With this ring, I continue my promise to you that I will be your faithful partner in life,

Pronouncement:

May your joys be sweet as spring flowers that grow
As bright as a fire when winter winds blow
As countless as leaves that float down in the fall
As serene as the Love that keeps watch over all.

I now pronounce that you have today reaffirmed your life commitment to one another, go forth in love and friendship for the rest of the days of your lives.

(6) Wine Ceremony

Wine Ceremony

 Red wine and white wine in a small carafe is placed next to an empty carafe with a wineglass on a small table near the couple. The center carafe, called the Marriage Carafe is sometimes a bit larger than the two outside "individual" carafes. Alternatively there would be 2 carafes and one empty glass. If the individual carafes are carried in the Wedding Processional the Marriage Carafe or Wine Glass is already sitting on the table and only the two individual filled carafes are carried forth. When the Wine Ceremony is done music can be played or there can be no music at all. The Wine Ceremony can be divided into two parts. The presenting of the two individual carafes filled with red and white wine to be placed on the table near the larger empty carafe during the processional. Then part two the pouring of the two separate wines into the empty carafe and drinking the combined wine by the wedding couple. Part two follows the exchange of vows. The ceremony can be one part with the wine already sitting on the table and the couple just combining the wines before drinking them. Part One can take place during the Wedding Processional with one of the attendants on both sides carrying the red or white carafe and placing it on the table. Or a bit earlier the parents of the couples come forward with a bottle of wine and fill the smaller carafes already on the table just before they are seated and then the wedding processional starts. Ceremony: After the vows the Officiant announces " We Now Shall Perform the Wine Ceremony" The couple goes to the table and each takes the individual carafe and pours some wine into the larger carafe. The groom then takes the larger filled carafe with the combined wine and pours some in a glass for the bride. The bride then takes the Larger Carafe with the combined wines and pours some into a glass for the Groom. He may now toast his bride with, " Now Our Lives Are One" and drinks from the glass she responds the same. They place the wineglass back and face back to the officiant. Who states. This Ceremony represents the two individual lives are now combined like the two wines into one single life. The drinking of the combined wine signifies the commitment you now make to live your lives as one family. May you remember this day of commitment you have sealed with drinking of the new wine joining your lives as one." He may also announce that immediately after the service others may drink the new wine of their commitment to one life if they so desire. Or Rose wine served at the reception to mark this ceremony. Originally a French wine country tradition in joining two vineyard owners in marriage.

Fri, Oct 12 2012
(7) Sweet Secular with Unity Candle and Sand Ceremony

 

Marriage is a supreme sharing of experience and an adventure in the most intimate of human relationships. It is the joyous uniting of a man and a woman whose comradeship and mutual understanding have flowered into romance. Today, Pedro and Cheryl proclaim their love to the world and we who are gathered here rejoice with them and for them for the new life they now undertake together.

 

We are gathered here, not to witness the beginning of what will be, but, rather what already is! We do not create this marriage, because we cannot. We can and do, however, celebrate with Pedro, Cheryl and their families the wondrous and joyful occurrence that has already taken place in their lives.

 

Cheryl and Pedro, in the days ahead of you, there will be times of difficulty and conflict. When you find yourselves in these situations, I ask you to reflect on this marriage advice:

Let your love be stronger than your anger.

Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.

Look for the best in your beloved rather than the worst.

Confide in your partner and ask for help when you need it.

Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.

Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.

Remember to say "I love you", hold hands whenever you get the chance, and at no time take the other for granted.

 

"We're all a little weird and life is weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love."

- Robert Fulghum

 

 

 

Marriage is dedication. You give yourself, your life and love, into the hands of the one you love. You do so trustingly and generously. By the same token, each of you receives a gift- the life and love of the other. You receive this gift not only from the one you love, but also from the parents who brought you into the world and reared you and from the personal world of friends and family who are joined in friendship and faith in your marriage.

 

Pedro and Cheryl hold in common the interests and ideals of their beliefs. Living this way together they will deepen their love for each other. Marriage must be a cooperative venture in every sense. It is a relationship based on love, respect and a determination on the part of both wife and husband to adjust to each others temperaments and moods.

 

 

"Pedro, do you take Cheryl to be your wedded wife, through the the good and the bad, the joy and the sorrow, facing all of life's experiences and sharing one another's dreams and goals. Do you promise to be her equal partner in a loving, honest relationship, for as long as you both shall live?"

 

 

Pedro:"I do"

 

 

"Cheryl, do you take Pedro to be your wedded husband, through the good and the bad, the joy and the sorrow, facing all of life's experiences and sharing one another's dreams and goals. Do you promise to be his equal partner in a loving, honest relationship, for as long as you both shall live?"

 

Cheryl:"I do"

 

"You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. The great acts of love are done by those who are habitually performing small acts of kindness. We pardon to the extent that we love. Love is knowing that even when you are alone, you will never be lonely again. And great happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved. Loved for ourselves. And even loved in spite of ourselves."

- Victor Hugo (excerpt from Les Miserables)

 

RING VOWS

 

Who holds the rings?

 

A ring is a fitting symbol to represent the commitment you are making today. Not only are these made out of the finest of metals, reminding you of the purity of your relationship. but they are also a circle, a line unending, reminding you that your love, devotion, and commitment to one another are to be unending.

 

Kelsey to Pedro:

As you place the ring on Cheryl's ring finger please repeat: With this ring I thee wed.

Kelsey to Cheryl --

As you place the ring on Pedro's ring finger please repeat: With this ring I thee wed.

 

Now,

Cheryl and Pedro will commemorate their marriage by lighting a Unity Candle (Bride and groom walk over to the candles) The two outside candles have been lighted by their parents to represent their lives to this moment. Light is the essence of our existence. Each one of us possesses an inner glow that represents our hopes, our dreams and aspirations in life. Cheryl and Pedro, the two distinct candle flames represent your lives before this day, individual, unique and special. Please take the candle symbolizing your life before today, and together light the center candle to symbolize the union of your individual llives. (Place the tapers back into their holders-join hands and remain near the candles) As this new flame burns undivided, so shall your lives now be one. From now on your thoughts will always be for each other rather than just your individual selves. Your plans will be mutual, your joys and sorrows both will be shared alike. Although you are now entering into a marriage relationship, you do not, however, lose your personal identity. Rather, you will use your special individuality to create and strengthen the relationship of marriage. Therefore all three candles remain glowing. The individual candles represent all that makes each of you the wonderful and unique person the other admires and respects. The Unity candle in the center symbolizes the union of your lives, families, and friends, as well as your shining commitment to each other, and to a lasting and loving marriage. (Walk back to wedding officiant)

 

May the blessing of light,

Be with you always,

Light without and light within.

And may the sun shine

Upon you and warm your heart

Until it glows

Like a great fire

So that others may feel

The warmth of your love

For one another.

 

SAND UNITY CEREMONY

Five people - My daughter and I, Pedro and his 2 sons

Cheryl and Pedro, today you are making a life-long commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other and honor your children as well. Your family relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these individual vessels of sand; one representing you, Cheryl and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, one representing you, Pedro, and all that you were and all that you are and all that you will ever be and a vessel for each - Amanda, Pery and Omar as they will share in thismarriage. We realize that in order for LIFE to be a happy one, it is essential that there be love and understanding between the children and adults. As you each hold your sand, the separate vessels of sand represent your lives to this moment; individual and unique. As you now combine your sand together, your lives also join together as one family. You may now blend the sand together symbolizing the uniting of your family and your future together. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual vessels, so too will your marriage and your family be.

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Take responsibility for making the other feel safe, and give the highest priority to tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty and fear assail your relationship, as they threaten all relationships at sometime or another, remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part that seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the times when clouds drift across the face of the sun in your lives, remembering that, just because you may lose sight of it for a moment does not mean the sun has gone away. And, if each of you takes total responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.

 

Inasmuch as Cheryl and Pedro have consented together in this ceremony to live in wedlock and have witnessed their vows in the presence of this company, by giving and receiving of rings, it gives me great pleasure to pronounce that they are husband and wife!!You may now kiss the bride!

 

INTRODUCTION OF NEWLYWEDS

 

Ladies and gentlemen, it is my honor to present to you, for the first time as husband and wife, Mr. & Mrs. Pedro and Cheryl Reyes.

Mon, Sep 03 2012
(8) Sweetheart's Wedding, Reverant and Secular

Minister
We are gathered here today in presence of friends and loved ones, to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes and blessings to the words which shall unite BRIDE and GROOM in holy matrimony. There are no obligations on earth sweeter or more tender than those they are about to assume. There are no vows more solemn than those they are about to make.

We gather here today to celebrate their union, and to honor their commitment to not just gazing at one another, but to looking outward together in the same direction. Today BRIDE and GROOM proclaim their love to the world, and we rejoice with and for them.

BRIDE and GROOM, we are here to remember and rejoice with you and to recount with one another that it is love that guides us on our path, and to celebrate as you begin this journey together. It is in this spirit that you have come here to today to exchange these vows.

Your marriage requires “love”, which is a word often used with vagueness and sentimentality. We mean something very real, when we bind ourselves truly with love. Storybook love doesn't conquer all. It's a pretty banner, but it's a different sort of love that makes a difference.

This love is a sweet freedom and fulfillment. When we love, we see things other people do not see. We see beneath the surface and observe qualities which make this one different from and dearer than all others. To see with loving eyes is to know inner beauty. To be loved is to be seen and known as we are known to no other.

I am very happy to say that the love of which we speak is not only this moment we share now. This love is about the days after the happy ending, and how you will continue to tell the story of your lives. We dream that tomorrow we will grow and fulfill our possibilities. It is a blessing when someone believes in our dream of ourselves. It is a blessing when someone wants to live with us and help make our dreams and aspirations come true.

Love of this sort continues to grow. It is not, like youth, a moment that comes and goes and is gone, remaining only a memory of something which cannot be recovered. It can grow because it has something to grow upon and grow with.

This is not the forget-me-not and honeysuckles love of childhood, but the the kind of love that makes you and keeps you whole, the love that gets you through the worst that your life will give you, and that pours out of you when you're given the best instead.*

The Art Of A Good Marriage by Wilferd Arlan Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created. In the art of marriage, the little things are big things…


It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is never taking the other for granted;

because the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or
sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo

or the wife to have
wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which
the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual,
and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner,
it is being the right partner.


In the days ahead of you, there will be times of difficulty and conflict. When you find yourselves in these situations, I ask you to reflect on this marriage advice:

Let your love be stronger than your anger.

Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.

Look for the best of your beloved rather than the worst.

Confide in your partner and be humble enough to ask for help when you need it.

Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.

Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.

Say "I love you" as often as you can.

"GROOM, do you take BRIDE to be your beloved wife? Do you promise to be a tender faithful husband? Do you promise to love her, to honor and cherish her, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, and to be to her in all things a good and faithful husband and give yourself only to her until the day you die?

(i do)

"BRIDE, do you take GROOM to be your beloved husband? Do you promise to be a tender faithful wife? Do you promise to love him, to honor and cherish him, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, and to be to him in all things a good and faithful wife and give yourself only to him until the day you die?
(i do)


VOWS:
GROOM, repeat after me:

I GROOM take you BRIDE to be my wife
I promise above all else to live in truth with you
and to communicate fully and fearlessly
I give you my hand and my heart
as a sanctuary of warmth and peace
and pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor
as I join my life to yours.

BRIDE, repeat after me:

I BRIDE take you GROOM to be my husband
I promise above all else to live in truth with you
and to communicate fully and fearlessly
I give you my hand and my heart
as a sanctuary of warmth and peace
and pledge my love, devotion, faith and honor
as I join my life to yours.


EXCHANGE OF RINGS
Traditionally, the marking of the passage to the status of husband and wife is marked by the exchange of rings. These rings are a symbol of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end. Love freely given has no giver and no receiver- for each is the giver and receiver. May these rings remind you always of the vows you have taken here today.

Who holds the rings?

GROOM and BRIDE, please repeat after me together:
I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness, and with this ring I thee wed.

Let these rings serve not as shackles binding yourselves together but as a sign of unity and the recognition that the whole is greater than the sum of it’s parts.

Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter
for the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be
warmth for the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two persons, but there are three lives before you; His life, Her life and Your life together.**

What we have witnessed here today, let no one put asunder.


I am now pleased to pronounce, by the powers vested in me by the great state of Alabama, that you are husband and wife.

You may now seal these sweetest promises with a kiss.

It is my humble privilege to introduce for the first time, BRIDE and GROOM.

(Recessional)

BLESSING OF THE RECEPTION MEAL
Ladies and gentlemen, in so much as any gathering of such a beloved community is a blessing, so the act of breaking bread together becomes a sacrament. May the food we are about to eat be blessed with our love and friendship together, to nurture our bodies as we enjoy our fellowship together and then venture back into the world to make a difference with our words and deeds.

Please proceed to the dining room as you are willing and able.

*from Rose Daughter, by Robin McKinley

**Native American wedding benediction
Compiled and adapted by Rev. Chauma Smith Guss, performed 9-2-2012

Thu, Jul 12 2012
(9) Wonderful Secular Ceremony

 

WELCOME

 

Welcome, family, friends and loved ones. We gather here today to celebrate the wedding of Brenna and Bradley. You have come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow them to start their married life together surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.

 

So welcome to one and all, who have traveled from near and far. Brenna and Bradley thank you for your presence here today, and now ask for your blessing, encouragement, and lifelong support, for their decision to be married.

 

OPENING WORDS OF THE OFFICIANT

 

Brenna and Bradley, in the days ahead of you, there will be times of difficulty and conflict. When you find yourselves in these situations, I ask you to reflect on this marriage advice:

 

Let your love be stronger than your anger.

Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend than to break.

Look for the best in your beloved rather than the worst.

Confide in your partner and ask for help when you need it.

Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.

Give your spouse the same courtesies and kindnesses you bestow on your friends.

Say "I love you" every day.

 

OPENING READING

 

"We’re all a little weird and life is weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love."

 

- Robert Fulghum

 

CHARGE TO THE COUPLE

 

Every day you live, learn how to receive love with as much understanding as you give it. Find things within yourself, then you can share them with each other. Do not fear this love. Have an open heart and a sincere mind. Be sincerely interested in each other’s happiness. Be constant and consistent in your love. From this comes security and strength. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us on this day of your marriage. Try to commit yourselves fully and freely to each other.

 

DECLARATION OF INTENT

 

Will you, Bradley, take this woman to be your wedded wife?

 

Bradley:I will”

 

Will you, Brenna, take this man to be your wedded husband?

 

Brenna:”I will”

 

WEDDING VOWS

 

Bradley: “Brenna, with all my love, I take you to be my wife. I will love you through good and the bad, through joy and the sorrow. I will try to be understanding, and to trust in you completely. Together we will face all of life’s experiences and share one another’s dreams and goals. I promise I will be your equal partner in a loving, honest relationship, for as long as we both shall live.”

 

Brenna: “Bradley, with all my love, I take you to be my husband. I will love you through good and the bad, through joy and the sorrow. I will try to be understanding, and to trust in you completely. Together we will face all of life’s experiences and share one another’s dreams and goals. I promise I will be your equal partner in a loving, honest relationship, for as long as we both shall live.”

 

SECOND READING

 

“You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. The great acts of love are done by those who are habitually performing small acts of kindness. We pardon to the extent that we love. Love is knowing that even when you are alone, you will never be lonely again. And great happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved. Loved for ourselves. And even loved in spite of ourselves.”

 

- Victor Hugo (excerpt from Les Miserables)

 

EXCHANGE OF RINGS

 

Bradley: “I give this ring as my gift to you. Wear it and think of me and know that I love you.”

 

Brenna: “I give this ring as my gift to you. Wear it and think of me and know that I love you.”

 

SAND UNITY CEREMONY

 

Brenna and Bradley, you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings, and this pledge is a relationship promise between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand one, representing you, Brenna, and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, Bradley, and all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Our hope for you today is that your lives together would be longer than the time it would take to separate the individual grains of sand.

 

CLOSING READING

 

“Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love. How on earth can you explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love? Put your hand on a stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with that special girl for an hour and it seems like a minute. That's relativity.”
 

-Albert Einstein

 

PRONOUNCEMENT

 

You have declared before all of us that you will live together in marriage. You have made special promises to each other which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and the giving and receiving of rings.

 

By the authority vested in me by the State of Tennessee, I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may now kiss the bride!

 

INDTRODUCTION OF NEWLYWEDS

 

Ladies and gentlemen, it is my honor to present to you, for the first time as husband and wife, Mr. & Mrs. Bradley Agamaite.

 

Thu, May 17 2012
(10) Ketubah- Jewish Tradition

 

May 26, 2012

4:30 Walk Through rehearsal

5:00 {Violin’s start playing}

5:25 {Kelsey, David, Best Man stand in position facing audience}

5:30 {David’s parents are escorted to seats}

 {Maid of Honor walks down aisle}

 {Flower girl walks down aisle}

 {Ring Bearer walks down aisle}

 

{Violin’s stop. Poem is read by Emily}

 

Wedding march music begins

 

{Angela walks down isle with her parents to front row}

 

Kelsey: Good Evening. We are gathered here this evening, in the presence of family and friends to celebrate the joining of ANGELA and DAVID in holy matrimony and to add our best wishes and blessings.

 

Who accompanies this Bride to Groom?

 

Whomever is escorting bride: We do.

 

[Angela walks rest of way to David. David and Angela face Kelsey with Kelsey in the middle]

 

{Megan straightens train}

 

Escort goes to chair.

 

The Celebration of Marriage

 

True marriage is the dearest of all earthly relationships. The state of matrimony is based on a deep, invisible union of two souls, who seek to find completion in one another.

 

Marriage is a supreme sharing of experience, and an adventure in the most intimate of human relationships. It is the joyous union of two people whose comradeship and mutual understanding have flowered into romance. Today, ANGELA and DAVID proclaim their love and commitment to the world, and we gather here to rejoice, with and for them, in the new life and commitments they are about to undertake together.

 

Please be seated:

 

On Love

 

So what do we mean by love? When we truly love, we see things other people do not see. We see beneath the surface, and observe qualities which make this one different from and dearer than all others. To see with loving eyes, is to know inner beauty and to be loved is to be seen and known as we are known to no other. True love breeds unlimited courage and confidence in themselves and in one another.

 

We, who love, can look at each others life and say, “I touched his life” or “I touched her life” just as an artist might say, “I touched this canvas. Those brushstrokes in the corner of this magnificent mural, those are mine. I was a part of this life and it is a part of me.” Marriage is to belong to each other through a unique and diverse collaboration, like two threads crossing in different directions, yet weaving one tapestry together.

 

To make this marriage work, therefore, takes more than love. It takes dedication. Dedication to give yourself, your life and love, into the hands of the one you love, to receive the life and love of the other in return, and to do so trustingly and generously. Dedication to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. 

 

It takes faith in one another, to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both. 

 

And it takes trust, to know in your hearts that you want only the best for each other for this is no light adventure which you are undertaking, it is a lifelong walk upon a path fraught with hills and valleys.

 

In ancient times in the Jewish religion, a couple entering into the covenant of marriage would enter into a written contract called a Ketubah. The Ketubah is designed to reflect the egalitarian nature of a successful marriage. It incorporates the hopes, dreams, realities and ambitions of a couple and recognizes their diverse traditions. DAVID and ANGELA, by taking their vows today in marriage, are also signing a Ketubah which they will hang in their home as a daily reminder of this moment. I would like to read you the text of the Ketubah which they will sign:

 

On this 26th day of the month of May in the year of 2012, in the presence of family and friends, the beloveds DAVID and ANGELA, entered into the covenant of marriage. 

As we embark on life’s journey, we promise to love, cherish, encourage and inspire one another. Our hearts fuse together, creating a unique bond with friendship and compassion at is core. Through its union, we vow to value and support each other, always striving to show sensitivity to each other’s needs. We shall nurture one another emotionally, spiritually and intellectually, always mindful of our respective qualities and strengths.

 

May we continue to grow together, maintaining the courage and determination to pursue our desired paths. We promise to celebrate life’s joys with grace and overcome life’s adversities with tenacity. May we maintain the intimacy that fosters trust, honesty and communication. As life partners, we shall strive to build a home emanating love, peace, tolerance and charity. Through each other’s eyes, we see the world anew: may we be better together.

 

On Marriage, by Edmund O’Neill

 

Marriage is a commitment to life – to the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal, a joining that is promised for a lifetime. Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life’s most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other’s best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener and critic. There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly and passes away more quickly. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures life, new experiences and new ways of expressing love though the seasons of life. When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.

 

Only once in your life, do you find your true love. The one who completely turns your world around. The one who makes you feel important, who wants you to be a part of their life, and who accepts you for who you are and respects what you want out of them and out of life.

 

You tell them things that you have never shared with another soul and they absorb everything and actually want to hear more. They never hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they lift you up and show you things about yourself that make you special and beautiful. There is not any pressure, jealousy, or competition, but a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry what they think of you because they love you for who you are. In their presence, there is no need for continuous conversation, but you find that you are content in just having them nearby. You find comfort and strength in knowing that even though they won’t be able to fix all your problems, you know you won’t face them alone. 

 

DAVID, do you take ANGELA to be your wedded wife, to live together in holy matrimony? Do you promise to love her, to honor and cherish her, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, and to be to her in all things a good and faithful husband as long as you both shall live?

 

DAVID: I do

 

ANGELA, do you take DAVID to be your wedded husband, to live together in holy matrimony? Do you promise to love him, to honor and cherish him, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, and to be to him in all things a good and faithful wife as long as you both shall live?

 

ANGELA: I do

 

{Angela hands flowers to Erin} {Angela and David now face each other and join both hands}

 

Blessing of the rings:

 

Kelsey: Who holds the rings?

 

Best Man [or ring bearer]: I do.

 

Kelsey:  These are the rings that ANGELA and DAVID will wear for the rest of their lives. Let us bless these rings. These rings are circles, symbols of love… that which has no beginning and no end. God grant that the love which ANGELA and DAVID have for each other now may always be just this way.

 

Kelsey: DAVID, please repeat after me: {David takes ring and puts ring half way on Angela’s finger.}

 

Angela, we entered into each other’s lives and experienced true love and happiness.

Today I am confirming my promise for all of my life to love and respect you,

to be faithful and honest with you, to give you encouragement, strength and trust,

to stand together in our times of joy and of sorrow.

I am promising from this day forward that I will be your husband,

to walk with you throughout all of your tomorrows.

I love you.

 

With this ring, I thee wed.

 

[Finish putting the ring on her finger, move engagement ring back to its position]

 

Kelsey: ANGELA, please repeat after me: {Angela takes ring and puts ring half way on David’s finger.}

 

David, we entered into each other’s lives and experienced true love and happiness.

Today I am confirming my promise for all of my life to love and respect you,

to be faithful and honest with you, to give you encouragement, strength and trust,

to stand together in our times of joy and of sorrow.

I am promising from this day forward that I will be your wife,

to walk with you throughout all of your tomorrows.

I love you.

 

With this ring – I thee wed [finish putting ring on David’s finger.]

 

Kelsey - You each have endured your own trials and tribulations that sought to destroy your hearts and compassion, but through the grace of God, you fought your way to the path that led you to each other and ultimately to this place, the beginning of your new forever. 

 

Treat yourselves and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together. Take responsibility for making the other feel safe, and give each other the highest priority to tenderness, gentleness and kindness.

 

Today you enter as two and leave as one. May you live the rest of your days with as much joy, peace, love and harmony that you have shared to this point multiplied exponentially into eternity.

 

By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you husband and wife.

 

DAVID, you may now kiss your Bride!

 

It now gives me great pleasure to introduce to you for the very first time Mr. and Mrs. DAVID Sokol. {Angela and David turn to audience}

 

Kelsey: Would everyone please stand as the couple departs but please remain at your seats until the parents have been escorted out.

 

{Angela takes flowers from Erin}

 

{Megan straightens train behind Angela}

 

{Violins begin, couple walks out, flower girl and ring bearer, groomsmen and bridesmaid recess as pairs following the bride and groom.}

 

Kelsey invites parents to exit just in front of him

 

Kelsey: [said as he departs last]. Please make your way to either the reception room for cocktails or to the upper balcony to watch as pictures are being made. Thank you all very much

(11) Catholic (short version)

 

Introduction

Friends, we have been invited here to share with Lisa and Putu in a most important time in their lives. In the time they have been together, their love for and understanding of each other has grown and matured. Now they have decided to live their lives together as husband and wife.

Would you bow with me as recite the Our Father together?

The Lord’s Prayer

Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom

come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day

our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those

who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver

us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory

forever. Amen.

Thank you. You may be seated.

 

Giving Away of Lisa

Kelsey -- Who is giving this woman to be joined to this man?

Father of Lisa -- Her mother and I

Wedding Vows

Our God of love has established marriage as the symbol of Christ's perfect relationship to His Body, the Church. We have come to bring you as one before Him.

Kelsey to Couple -- Christian marriage is not living merely for each other; it is two persons, uniting and joining hands to serve God. Seek His kingdom first, and His righteousness, and He will add all other things to you. Do not expect perfection from each other--that belongs solely to God. You need not minimize each other's weaknesses, but always be swift to praise and magnify each other's points of comeliness and strength, and see each other through kind and patient eyes.

 

God will lead you into such situations as will bless you, and those which will develop your character as you walk together. That's another way of saying there will be difficult times you share as well. As you look to Him, He will give you enough tears to keep you tender, enough hurts to keep you compassionate, enough of failure to keep your hands clenched tightly in His, and enough of success to make you certain that you do walk with Him.

 

May He remain the central figure in your relationship together. May you never take each other's love for granted, but always experience that wonder that exclaims "Out of all in this world, you have chosen me!" When life is done, may you be found, then as now, hand in hand, still thanking God for each other. May you ever serve Him happily, faithfully, together, until Christ returns in Glory, or until at last one shall lay the other to rest in the arms of the Savior. And all this, through the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ.

You both stand before us as children of God, redeemed by Jesus Christ through your trust in Him, and His substitutionary death for your sin. Is it your purpose to establish a home that is truly Christ-centered, where the Word of God is read and obeyed; a home that is welded together by prayer, in which the Holy Spirit is your constant Guide?

Lisa and Putu -- It is.

 

Will you please, as an expression that your hearts are joined together in love, now please join your hands.

 

Kelsey to Putu -- Putu, this woman whom you hold by the hand is to be your wife. She has given you one of the most sacred things under heaven: a woman's life, and a woman's love. You may bring her great joy or cause her deep sorrow. It is not what you bring her in a material way that will make true happiness--riches without love are nothing. The gift without the giver is bare. The practice of those virtues as husband that you have shown as lover, will keep her heart won to your heart.

Do you vow here, as you have promised Lisa, that you will be true and loyal, patient in sickness, comforting in sorrow, and forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her, so long as you both shall live?

Putu -- I do.

Kelsey to Lisa -- Lisa, this man whom you hold by the hand is to be your husband. Upon your life, your love, and your devotion he will lean for strength and inspiration. He is going to look to you for encouragement, for cheerfulness, and for confidence. No matter what the world may say or think, people may forget him, lose confidence in him, or turn their backs upon him, but you must not. May your life and love be the inspiration that will constantly lead him to greater dependence upon our Lord. Do you vow here, as you have promised Putu, that you will be loyal in adversity, ministering to him in affliction, comforting him in sorrow, and forsaking all others, keeping yourself only unto him so long as you both shall live?

Lisa -- I do.

Kelsey to Putu

-- Would you repeat after me:

I, Putu, take you Lisa, to be my wife, before God who brought us together, to love and cherish you, even as Christ loved the Church, and gave Himself for it, to lead you, and share all of life's experiences with you, by following God through them. That through His grace we might grow together into the likeness of Jesus, our Savior and Lord.

 

Kelsey to Lisa Lisa, would you repeat after me:

 I, Lisa, take you, Putu, to be my wedded husband, before God who brought us together, to love you and to cherish you, to submit myself to you in all things, and to follow you through all of life's experiences as you follow God, that through His grace we might grow together into the likeness of Jesus, our Savior and Lord.

Ring Vows

Who holds the rings?

A ring is a fitting symbol to represent the covenant you are making today. Not only are these made out of the finest of metals, reminding you of the purity of your relationship. but they are also a circle, a line unending, reminding you that your love, devotion, and commitment to one another are to be unending.

Putu:

As you place the ring on Lisa’s ring finger please repeat: With this ring I thee wed.

Kelsey to Lisa --

As you place the ring on Putu’s ring finger please repeat: With this ring I thee wed.

 

Pronouncement

In as much as you have each pledged to the other your lifelong commitment, love, and devotion, by the authority committed to me as a minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ, and according to the laws of the State of Alabama, I now declare you to be husband and wife, in the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, Amen.

 

And what God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.

Kiss

Introduction

Ladies and gentlemen, it is my pleasure to be the first to introduce to you, Mr. and Mrs. _____________.

 

(12) Handfasting with Cords II

 

Kelsey:

We are gathered here today in the and the presence of friends and loved ones, to celebrate one of life's greatest moments, to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our best wishes and blessings to the words which shall unite Jeremy and Alyssa in holy matrimony.

 

 Giving of the Alyssa:

Who presents this Alyssa to be wed?

Father: €œHer mother and I€

 

Explanation of Hand fasting Tradition

 

 Alyss and Jeremy have chosen a traditional hand fasting ceremony. In Europe, until the mid- 1700’s, few unions were sanctified in a church or synagogue. Rather, they were celebrated by a simple hand fasting ceremony in which the two partners joined hands over the village anvil, in the fields or in the groves of trees. Today, we build upon this tradition. The couple linked hands, to form a circle, symbolizing the entirety of their love. Jeremy and Alyssa, please join hands.

Handfasting/ Vows

 Know now before you go further, that since your lives have crossed in this life you have formed ties between each other. As you seek to enter this state of matrimony you should strive to make real, the ideals which give meaning to both this ceremony and the institution of marriage. With full awareness, know that within this circle you are not only declaring your intent to be hand fasted before your friends and family, but you speak that intent also to God. The promises made today and the ties that are bound here greatly strengthen your union; they will cross the years.

 

 

Do you still seek to enter this ceremony?

Couple: Yes

 Dedication (Blessing) of the Hands

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

 These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief racks your mind.

 These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

These are the hands that will give you support and encourage you to chase your dreams.

Together, everything you wish for can be realized.

Prepare the cords

 Back in earlier years, the hands would be bound with whatever was available - vines, colorful cords, or scarf. Today we will use this cord to symbolize the binding, or promises.

 

 

The first promise (binding)

 Jeremy, Will you be Alyssa’s faithful partner for life?

Jeremy: Yes

Alyssa, will you be Jeremy’s faithful partner for life?

Alyssa: Yes

To Both

Will you be each others constant friends and one true love?

Both answer: Yes

 And so the binding is made. The cord is wrapped around the couple's wrist.

The second promise (binding)

 Alyssa, do you promise to love Jeremy without reservation?

Alyssa:

 Yes

Jeremy, do you promise to love Alyssa without reservation?

 Jeremy: Yes

 To Both

Will both of you stand by one another in sickness and in health, in plenty and in want?

 Both answer:

Yes

And so the binding is made. The cord is wrapped around the couple's wrist.

The third promise (binding)

 Alyssa, will you stand together with Jeremy in your times of joy and sorrow?

Alyssa: I will

 Jeremy, will you stand together with Alyssa in your times of joy and sorrow?

Jeremy: I will

To Both

Will you both share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union?

Both answer:

Yes, we will

 And so the binding is made. (The cord is wrapped around the couple's wrist.)

 

 

The forth promise (binding)

 Jeremy will you always to be open and honest with Alyssa, for as long as you both shall live?

Jeremy: Yes

Alyssa, will you always to be open and honest with Jeremy, for as long as you both shall live?

 Alyssa: Yes

 To Both

Will you dream together to create new hopes for this marriage?

Both: Yes

And so the binding is made. (The cord is wrapped around the couple's wrist.)

The fifth promise (binding)

Alyssa, Will you honor this man?

Alyssa: I will

 Jeremy, Will you honor this woman?

Jeremy: I will

 

 

To Both:

Will you both seek to cherish and strengthen that honor? 

Both: We will

 And so the binding is made.

(The cord is wrapped around the couple's wrist.)

Binding of all promises Remove cord while saying:

The knots of this binding are not formed by these chords but instead by your vows. Either of you may drop the chords, for as always, you hold in your own hands the making or breaking of this union.

 (Once chord is removed, it is placed on altar)

Blessing and Exchange of Rings

Who holds the rings?

Joe Bob: I do

These are the rings that Alyssa and Jeremy will wear for the rest of their lives, that express the love that they have for one another.

 

Jeremy, do you take Alyssa to be your wedded wife, to live together in holy matrimony, for as long as the two of you shall live?

Jeremy: I do

Please take Alyssa’s ring and as you place on her ring finger please repeat to her: With this ring I thee wed.

 

 Alyssa do you take Jeremy to be your wedded husband, to live together in holy matrimony for as long as you two shall live?

Alyssa: I do €

Please take Jeremy’s ring and as you place it on his ring finger please repeat: With this ring I thee wed.

Recognition Of Marriage

 Only a couple can seal the promise of a marriage to each other, and only a couple can bind it. No power vested in me by the state can grant me the authority to declare what only these two hearts can declare, and what only these two souls can make real. And so now, inasmuch as you, Jeremy, and you, Alyssa, have announced the truths that are already written in your hearts, and have witnessed the same in the presence of these, your family and friends, -- we observe joyfully that you are now husband and wife.

You may kiss!!

And now it is my privilege present to you for the very first time Mrs. Alyssa and Mr. Jeremy Horton

Kelsey: Would everyone please stand as the couple departs! Please remain in your places until the parents have left the room.

Music begins, couple slowly walks out, flower girl, groomsmen and bridesmaids recess as pairs, Kelsey invites parents to exit just in front of him.

Kelsey: (said as he departs last) Thank you all very much!

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